Of course, its BS. Dont make the mistake of retalaiting on her.
The best thing you can do is forgive her for whatever wrongs she has done to you. Take the high road, and leave the low road's of revenge and hate for others.
I agree with L. Order a copy of your cfile, if you dont already have a current one now.
After you get your decision, you can decide if you want to submit new and material evidence under 3.156, or just file a NOD. (Sometimes VA has the evidence, but does not read it and just denies it.).
If/when you file a NOD, you should try to Refute their "reasons and bases" for denial, based upon evidence which you suggest conflicts with the decision, in your file, or, that you submitted as N and M evidence.
Been busy, apologize for the tardiness.
Currently waiting for my C-file.
Until then I am still getting all of my service illnesses taken care of by private board certified doctors by my company insurance I work for. Some is out of my own pocket for instance the chiropractor and one time specialty physician. So as soon as I get the C-file, I will schedule my appointment with Dr. Steingart, and post my full review of what I know will be the favorable outcome for the IME.
Not sure if you will get anything out of what I have to say, but maybe something will catch your eye. You mentioned teeth grinding in your post. Is it documented in your service medical/dental records?
Here's why I ask, I endured jaw pain to such a degree that it interfered with eating and sleeping. I had to massage my jaw muscles so I could chew my food, during the worst of it. I went to the medical center a few times, they referred me to the dental clinic where they noted excessive wear on my teeth, but could find no physical causes. They deduced that the grinding and clenching was most likely due to work related stress.
Fast forward 17 years and I learned I could claim it, did so, got denied. Filed appeal, got IMO/IME, with nexus letter stating at least as likely as not, citing SMR entries that noted the 4 year history of jaw pain. Denied.
Both times they reasoned that since it wasn't diagnosed as so in my SMR, they would not grant it. However they did grant that it is there and is valid, but is being recognized as a symptom of MH illnesses. Fortunately for me I do not have any SCD for MH. Or not so fortunate for me, but I do have a current DX of MDD recurrent with SI...from the VA, which puts me firmly in the 70% rating. If I had it service connected, that is.
For me, though, it may not matter, but for you it may get you a secondary to PTSD claim.