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I believe that this is something many of us deal with on a frequent basis.

Same tdoc gave me some "wonderful" (gag, choke, cough) advice about dealing with my extreme anger...........ready?.............she told me to just "not react".

Wow! Wish I'd known it was that easy all along!! O...M...G......

I told her about a couple of specific incidents where a parent on my son's baseball team was upset because my son was playing one of his positions (3rd)...a position her son had been called up from the Jr team to play and now he was in the outfield. She was right behind me saying very negative things about my son...and yup, she knows who I am!

Basically, my son is a senior.....her son is younger. My son can also hit better....(she was complaining about his place in the batting order as well).

I'm this close () to going off on her if she says one more thing. Yet tdocs grand and glorious advice is to "not react"...............obviously she doesn't have kids.

Anger. How do you deal with it??

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LOL--Yeah Purple I've heard that advice for years. Best thing I've found to relieve the anger is to pound the living crap outta the person bothering you, unfortunately this action has damaged severely whatever is left of my post military career in the civilian world and has also resulted in me getting strange looks when ever my wife of 41 years lets me outta the house :unsure:

On a serious note, and maybe this insight comes with age, I have learned to sometimes recognize the warning signs that I am about to lose it and I try just to get away from whatever is bothering me. Literally, I will turn around, walk away and go be by myself until I get myself under control. I still have a lot of anger, and I still get in trouble, but I am doing a little better.

God Bless you Purple and good luck. Hang in there buddy I think that it is awesome that you're going to your son's games. My kids are grown and turned out great. I think keeping them in sports was a key part of giving them a normal life. Sounds like your son is a pretty good ball player.


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I was hoping to hear how others deal with their anger so that it might help me since my tdoc isn't helpful.

Plus sharing ideas on here might be helpful to everyone.

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Yes Purple, I to have problems with things like that but I think we all have them and some people just say don't respond but I can't do that. I have a nephew who gets on my nerves just by showing up at my house. Next time he shows up I won't say anything to him I will just call the police and ask them to please come by and remove him. Maybe then he will understand we don't have anything in common. I am learning anger managment. More than one way to handle a proplem.

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