great food for thought... my Phyc Dr. asked me a question that really rung my bell, after getting to know some of my daily issues he asked how that was working for me.. pat answer "not very well"..however in thinking it over I have to say that it is working better than the options...avoiding, running, hiding... my fear based existence has kept me out of confrontations that were ruining my daily life...at this point I am affecting no one but myself, and that is huge after years of making life hard for those around me. My xwife, daughter, and grandson know that I love them but that I am toxic...what the hell, we all have to be responsible for our nonsense and the thought of more therapy that defines my nonsense seems counter productive, I thank you for your thought full response to my questions....