I'm not sure how much this will help you but the military and the VA will accept common law as long as you are living in a common law state. I am the widow of a disabled veteran who died in 2013 from Agent Orange related problems. Anyway, we were in SC and began our life together in mid-1995. At that time, he added me to all his accounts and also on his military and VA records, however, we had to get two affidavits from people who knew us that would say that we were living together as man and wife from 1995 to whenever it was we filed. We also provided records of items that showed us having joint ownership of accounts and property, etc. Bottomline, it was approved. We did, however, get married before he died but I had no problems receiving DIC nor his military annuity. I might add that he was also receiving CRSC before he died. I had to go through quite a quagmire when he died because his death occurred in a civilian hospital here in the area and I was livid about his treatment and his unexpected death. I paid for a very expensive autopsy to preserve anything and everything but couldn't find an attorney to take the case. Anyway, water under the bridge but it did give me what I needed to get my DIC because they refused to write the entire cause of his death and I knew the VA wouldn't have accepted it but they did accept the autopsy. Anyway, good luck...and thank you for your service!