He went to the VA again today. We're waiting on word about several loans he can apply for. We managed to wrangle up enough items for rent. Yes, Texas it's a common law state. No, he's not going to die if he gets the surgery. I'm being realistic but on that I will not accept. However, we want to get married... Yes, just in case. Besides it's a long recovery about a year. We just want to make sure... It's not about having me as a beneficiary. It's about me being able to make decisions if I must. I could care less about what happens with his VA funds, if he were ever to pass away. I can manage myself and what I need on my own, as far as finances go. However, I can't for the both of us.
I do want him to talk to the police. But that's a hard one. I mean, he used to be one it's going to take him a little bit to swallow his pride. We are going to report the identity theft though, thank you for the additional companies! I have talked him into our friends filing their own police reports, I want his previous employment to file as well. I don't want to push him. He's in a very delicate state right now. He can't take any medication. He has ventricle failure. Without surgery and without a device to regulate his heart beat, he will die.
I cringe when he wakes up screaming and flailing his arms. Yeah, he has PTSD as well. It's not good for his heart. None of this is.
Yesterday, I had to convince him not to get a job. He feels, well... Think about it. He was a soldier. He deployed several times. He was a cop. He's seeing a councilor on Monday. I'm really happy about it because with some of these things I can support and that's it. I wish I could make this all go away. He doesn't deserve any of this. Everyone makes mistakes but this, this is ludicrous.
As of right now, it appears that there are two different judges. One in this state and the other in the other state. Some how, some way they both ruled. Don't ask me how that happened but I have the paper work for it. One is pending, one is denied.
His case worker states that he may have to see a judge. Which is fine because he has most of the paper work needed. Apparently, she can keep doing this. There is no limit on the amount of appeals she can file. I'm trying to still arm myself with knowledge. I've been reading up on the processes. Yes, I know I'm using all the incorrect terminology I apologize.
Yes, one judge denied because of the divorce decree. There's a statement she specifically wrote stating that she wants no funds from him and will not be seeking child support or alimony. Well, obviously she changed her mind...
On Monday we find out the next steps in this process.
Thank you both for your support and help. I hope to keep this entry updated.