Berta, this information that I have compiled may give you some insight into my husband's issues. hope it is helpful and sorry about the repeated information.
Some information I have put together about my husband’s history and recommendation we have gotten
My husband is a 100 percent, permanently and totally, Service-connected, disabled veteran.
In 1980 my husband, Frank opened a claim and was rated 0% service-connected for a scar from getting hit in the head with a pick-ax.
In 1997, Frank reopened his claim and received 100% P&T VA service-connected compensation. He was rated totally and permanently 100% disabled.
Frank also has PTSD, which is service connected and is combined under his in his 100% rating.
From what I understand his 100% rating is service connected, but his PTSD is service connected, but remains unrated at this time, yet the Veteran’s administration and several VSOs, doctors, and mental health experts recognize that Frank has severe PTSD and agree that his PTSD should be rated separately from his TBI, Headaches, and other issues.
Another issue is Frank’s headaches. his headache issues started in the Marines. Even though Frank was very involved in combat sports, had been a boxer, was hit in the head with a pick-ax, was assaulted and beaten about the head, he was denied service connection for headaches because he hadn’t provided medical evidence from a doctor to prove he had migraines and tension headaches.
Also, his headache and many other service-connected problems have been verified by his first Wife, whom he was married to while he was still in the Marines. His headaches have also been verified by his mother’s statement and several other statements in his Claims-File and medical records. We have also provided new medical evidence, as requested by the VA. Also, there are many references confirming his headaches in his Claims-file and VA medical records.
We feel that Frank also has arthritis in his neck hands and spine and several other issues that are service related and need to be rated and service connected.
Found in Frank’s Claims-File: The VA said that on 07/29/1998 Frank was awarded 100% Service Connected, permanently and totally for dementia due to head trauma with mood disorder and PTSD code 9304.
In 1980 Frank opened a claim and was rated 0%. On 04/22/1980 upon discharge from the Marines, Frank was given a 0% rating for occipital area scar, skull. code 7805 (according to his service medical records, his scar is from a blow to the head with a pickax while serving in the Marines.)
In his 1980 claim, Frank was denied service connection for headaches because he hadn’t provided medical evidence. Frank filed a notice of disagreement (in 1981?) but, as always, Frank never followed through, nor was he mentally capable. Nor did the veteran’s service officer work hard to file a complete and proper disability claim. (This claim was again lacking most of Frank’s problems.) Along with his cognitive and emotional issues, we believe Frank may have been homeless, jobless, separated from his wife, and having marital problems at the time.
These issues all started while he was in the marines and continue to negatively effect every aspect of his life.
frank’s C-File and VA medical records show that Frank has also been diagnosed with Dementia pugilistica, TBI, PTSD, severe depression, generalized anxiety disorder, debilitating headaches, hearing problems and tinnitus, stiff neck, stiff and sore hands and sore feet, TMJ, gastrointestinal problems to include pancreatitis, gallbladder issues, fatty liver. His ankles sometimes fail, he has shoulder pain, elbow pain, thumb pain, mood disorder, depression, pain disorder, he has lower back issues, and other problems. Most of these issues were listed by the nurse when he was discharged, but the doctor threw the documents in the trash
Found in frank’s Claims-File: The VA said that on 07/29/1998 Frank was awarded 100% Service Connected, permanently and totally for dementia due to head trauma with mood disorder and PTSD code 9304.
Frank’s first VA claim was in 1980
In 1980, Frank was honorably discharged from the Marines. On the day he was discharged the nurse noticed Frank had many problems and asked Frank and his first wife about the many problems Frank had suffered from. The nurse asked, and Frank and his wife listed several of these medical problems. For example, Frank had incognizant and emotional issues. She listed such problems as nervousness; severe and frequent throbbing headaches; slowed speech; nightmares; insomnia; memory issues; Anger issues; hearing and ear ringing problems; sore hands and feet, lower back issues, bad ankle, and several other issues. It was the end of the day, and the doctor got angry when he saw all the complaints.
The doctor then went out to yell at the nurses and wanted Frank to tell him which nurse had helped him. Frank refused to say. The doctor was angry with Frank and then yelled at the nurses and told Frank he didn’t have time for this. He then threw the documents with Frank’s listed disabilities in the trash. He then filled out new documents himself, minus most of Frank’s disabilities. When asked, Frank would try to list a problem, but the doctor would ignore him or rudely tell Frank to suck it up.
Unknown to the doctor, Frank’s first wife at the time (see the letter in C-file) was a witness to all this. The doctor also gave Frank a hearing test while he talked on the phone at the same time. Frank and his wife were very upset because of the rudeness and lack of compassion shown by the doctor. Frank said he would never go to the VA again.
Frank and first wife were married while Frank was still in the Marines, so she witnessed many of Frank’s issues while he was still serving in the Marines, to include his severe headaches, but Frank’s marriage to his first wife didn’t last long, about three years, due to his many issues related to his disabilities.
When Frank reopened his VA claim in 1997, his ex-wife wrote a letter stating what had happened in 1980 claim and verified many of frank’s other service-related disabilities. (This letter is listed in the evidence in his C-File; Also see the statements made by fellow Marines, ministers, fellow boxers, and others)
So, as a result, Frank’s first claim in 1980 ended up getting filed lacking most of Frank’s serious medical problems and was also lacking supporting evidence for his Migraine headaches and other service-related problems. (This claim was denied except for the scar from getting hit in the head with a pickaxe.)
Even though Frank didn’t want help from the VA, Frank had been persuaded by his family to file again shortly after his discharge in April 1980. They also persuaded him to file a notice of disagreement, but again, Frank never followed through, nor did the veteran’s service officer work hard to file a complete and proper disability claim. (This claim was again lacking most of his problems.)
Also, Frank did not have the mental ability to file a complete claim, nor did he have the mental ability or motivation to follow through. From what I understand Frank had been homeless at the time, had no address, was jobless, was separated from his wife, and having serious problems in his marriage after leaving the Marines. (this has often been the case with Frank)
After getting out of the Marines, Frank often lost his jobs due to missing work due to headaches, memory problems, being dangerous to work around, not understanding instructions and directions, getting lost, getting in fights and arguments with others, lower back issues, and many other issues. The result would be job loss, financial problems, legal and marital problems, divorce, and homelessness. For all those years Frank refused to get help from the VA. (He had lost trust after what the doctor did in 1980.)
But in 1997 (persuaded by his new wife, (the one that Berta and other hadit members helped) and several VA phycologist and doctors) Frank finally reopened his 1980 claim and filed a proper claim. He was awarded 100 percent, total and permanent, Service-connected, disability in 1998.
More information on frank’s old 1980 claims
On 04/22/1980 upon discharge from the Marines, Frank was given a 0% rating for occipital area scar, skull code 7805 (according to his service medical records, his scar is from a blow to the head with a pickax while in the Marines.) Frank was hit in the head with a pick ax In June 1979. He fell and got dizzy several times. He received 12 stitches. He still has nightmares and bad memories from this incident.
From what I’ve learned about Frank. In 1997 Frank reopened a VA claim dated from 1980, his initial claim was rated 0%.
(Frank’s headache issues started in the Marines. Even though Frank had been a boxer, was constantly sparring in combat sports, was hit in the head with a pick-ax, was assaulted and beaten about the head, he was denied service connection for headaches because he hadn’t provided medical evidence to prove he had migraines and tension headaches.)
Also, Frank’s headache problems have been verified by his first Wife whom he was married to, while he was still in the Marines.
With help, Frank filed a notice of disagreement in 1981 but, again, never followed through, nor did the VSO file for all Frank’s disabilities. Also, over the years, he has been prescribed medications for headaches from the VA, but he mostly uses high doses of ibuprofen. (Yet, his headaches have still not been service connected).
After Frank was awarded 100%, Frank and his wife were told by a VSO that there was no need to file for additional claim beyond his 100% TBI claim, because his 100% claim was the highest he could get, and there would be no extra benefits, so there was no sense in filing for his other disabilities or SMC because it would just slow down the claims process.
From his C-File: The VA said that on 07/29/1998 Frank was awarded 100% Service Connected, permanently and totally for dementia due to head trauma with mood disorder and PTSD, code 9304
After he was awarded 100%, in 1998, The VA asked Frank if he wanted to file a claim on his other listed injuries. A VSO told Frank Because Frank had already gotten 100% it wouldn’t make a difference, it would slow down the claim process, and 100% was the most he could get, so Frank never filed for many of his other service-connected disabilities. The VA was aware of many of these injuries and during a call from the VA Frank told them he was already 100%, and he said he didn’t want to pursue the other claims. We feel that Frank was misinformed and agreed to not pursue these other claims without understanding the situation. When he talked to the VA, his wife was running errands, so was not there to assist him.
Before frank’s wife died, she and a VA doctor were in the process of getting Frank SMC and other extra compensation so that he could get in-home care with medication management and his other cognizant deficits. She was also in the process of filing claims for his other disabilities. But she died before she could finish.
While she was sick with leukemia and housebound, The VA had a nurse coming to their home to help Frank and his wife with their medications and other things.
Also, frank’s lower back was giving him a lot of problems again, so the VA had a therapist coming to their home for rehabilitation. Also, frank’s Mother and stepfather and several other family members were taking turns staying with Frank and his wife to help out with all these issues.
We have been getting some advice from the veteran’s administration (VA), and several Veterans service officers (VSOs, doctors, Hadit members, and several mental health experts. I have listed many of their opinions bellow, but most of these opinions can be found in frank’s VA Claims file, VA medical records, and some other additional evidence we have provided.
The Doctors and other experts feel that Frank qualifies for special monthly compensation (SMC) aid and attendance (A&A)
They also feel Frank qualifies for separate 100% ratings for both TBI and PTSD.
The VA recommended that we get medical evidence to separate Frank’s TBI from his PTSD and they said we need a letter from a doctor verifying his Migraine headaches their severity, how often they are prostrating, and their cause.
Many experts feel that Frank is completely disabled from TBI alone. They also feel that Frank is also completely disabled due to PTSD alone, We were told by the VA and others that with the two separate 100% ratings he would then qualify for (SMC) special monthly compensation and (A&A) aid and attendance.
We were also told that because Frank is a hazard to himself, needs constant supervision, and has so many severe cognitive and emotional issues, that these issues also qualify him for (SMC)A&A.
These experts feel that Frank needs his headaches service connected as secondary to his TBI. He has continuous tension headaches with frequent throbbing monthly debilitating prostrating migraines.
Many of these experts felt Frank’s headaches should have been service connection secondary to his TBI long ago, being as headaches are one of the main complaints with TBI patients. They said that due to his boxing, assaults, and getting hit in the head with the pickaxe, the headaches would be easy to connect to the TBI, as headaches are one of the main symptoms of TBI.
Frank suffers from severe, frequent, and completely prostrating migraine headaches and is completely unable to function.
Most of these medical issues (to include his headaches) are documented in his VA records and support letters listed in his claims-file.
Many of these complaints, including the headaches, have been at issue since he was serving in the Marines.
They also felt that Frank easily qualified for 100% Permanent and total (P&T) for both TBI and PTSD along with a secondary rating for such issues, for example, Migraine headaches, tension headaches, Tinnitus, neck aches, and other service-related issues.
Also, they said that the incident with the pick-ax had a significant effect in contributing to Frank’s PTSD.
Some experts feel that due to Frank’s TBI he is a hazard to himself, not only due to his cognitive deficits, such as leaving the gas on the stove unlit, leaving the fire on and burning food and causing fires. He also doesn’t pay attention before he crosses the road and has been hit by a car, he gets lost, has caused accidents, and much more.
They said the veteran is in persistent danger of hurting himself and others.
He has a recurrent inability to perform activities of daily living (including maintenance of minimal personal hygiene. He has disorientation to time or place; memory loss for names of close relatives and many other cognitive issues.)
As I have stated above, we have been advised by several experts that Frank’s TBI results from in-service combat sports, boxing and getting hit in the head with the pick-ax. The residuals of his TBI include such issues as his headaches, cognitive deficits, memory issues, difficulty focusing, dizziness, issues with processing information, blurred vision, and several other issues — many which are listed in his records.
Frank’s PTSD with major depressive disorder is caused by the many stressors Frank had experienced during his time in the Marines to include getting hit in the head with the pick-ax, getting assaulted and harassed; the incidence with the sea-cargo container, the gas chamber, the cattle car, and the teargas grenades in the barracks, his fights inside and outside the ring; witnessing assaults and death, performing CPR, Having his life threatened and believing he would die, almost suffocating to death, almost drowning and much more. After he left the Marines, there were several other incidences that added to Frank’s PTSD and depression.
Some more comments from Frank’s VA claims file, medical records, and many experts
The patient’s medical neurological and psychological history prior to his military service is completely unremarkable His medical neurological, and psychological disorders are entirely the result of injuries incurred while serving in the United States Marines.
Another example found in his records, on 07/16/2012 Dr. DAVID LEHMAN, a VA Doctor stated, “I am nominating this patient for catastrophic disability based on his GAF score of 20.”
We were told that “considering all of this evidence Frank is obviously a catastrophically disabled veteran and should have received SMC A&A Housebound since 1997 or 1980.” His TBI, headaches, PTSD, and other disabilities have been an issue since serving in the Marines.
The veteran is Moderately severely impaired. He gets lost even in familiar surroundings, unable to use assistive devices such as GPS, he had an incident recently and had tried to commit suicide, by walking out in front of a truck, almost causing an accident. he tried to injure himself by slamming his head on the ground and hitting himself in the head. He later got lost and ended up at the airport. When asked by the airport police what his address was, Frank couldn’t remember. He also was unable to remember his wife’s phone number. Frank had to go to the hospital due to his suicidal attempt, and eventually the police were able to contact his wife. He was then admitted into the mental hospital.
His subjective symptoms significantly interfere with all aspects of his life. He has daily headaches with frequent migraines that require frequent weekly rest periods; he has dizzy spells, constant tinnitus, frequent insomnia, hypersensitivity to light and sound, and fatigue.
His neurobehavioral effects. He is often irritability, impulsive, unpredictable, lacks motivation, is easily provoked into verbal and physical aggression, he is often moody. The Veteran requires constant supervision for the safety of himself and others. These are daily issues.
Please see letters from Dr. Goodman; Dr. Brockhoff, VA C&P medical examiner; and Dr. L, Dr. Goodman, and the C&P examiner all noted Frank has PTSD). Frank has service-connected PTSD. He was also considered unemployable
Also, could this incident with the pick-ax also have some connection with his PTSD, TBI, headaches and neck pain?
Cognitive issues SMC A&A
In 1998, the VA felt Frank was considered incapable of managing his VA compensation money.
Frank was assigned a fiduciary by the VA due to his cognitive deficits.
Frank has had to be placed in the mental hospital many times due to PTSD, suicidal thoughts and attempts, not sleeping and other issues.
Recently while living in Cyprus Frank has had to be admitted into the psychiatric hospital on two different occasions. I had been desperately trying to get him help from the VA for months.
Just recently in November 2018, Frank tried to commit suicide several times and had to be admitted to the psychiatric hospital for 15 days and have his medications readjusted. He is under the care of Dr. P Anton and is now getting weekly therapy for his PTSD.
Also, Frank has often gotten lost, forgotten his address and my phone number.
Also found in Frank’s records, the VA had considered SMC when Frank filed his claim in 1997 but said he did not meet the criteria in the November 1999 decision. Some of the experts we have been talking with feel that the VA had in their possession records that should have warranted a grant of SMC Housebound or A & A in 1997? But somehow the VA overlooked and failed to make this award.
Another issue that was noted was the Issue concerning Frank’s driver’s license being revoked in 1997-1998 because Frank was not considered safe to drive. He has been told again, in November 2018 he is not to drive.
Another example of Frank being a hazard to himself and others. Frank was responsible for a five-car accident in Poland in 2017. a friend of mine,Frank. And I all sustained injuries. Due to my injuries, I now need spinal surgery due to this accident.
Also noted in Frank’s claim file was that Dr. Goodman’s letter was listed by Dr. Brockhoff, the C&P examiner who made the recommendation for 100% SC PT for dementia due to head trauma with mood disorder and PTSD code 9304. But the VA forgot to list Dr. Goodman’s letter in the evidence. Possibly they did not have this letter in their possession when they considered SMC and A&A.
Dr. Brockhoff’s recommendation was what the VA quoted when they awarded Frank 100% service connected which is considered total and permanent for dementia due to head trauma with mood disorder and PTSD code 9304, exactly as Dr. Brockhoff recommended. (from what I understand, Dr. Brockhoff was a very respected C&P examiner.)
Other advice given to us by the VA, Hadit members, and VSOs
Since we live out of the country, we were told by the VA that it would make things easier, considering our situation, for Frank to get an Independent Medical Opinion (IMO) and an independent medical examination (IME) and all the appropriate Disability Benefits Questionnaires (DBQs) filled out.
The VA told us when we get this medical evidence then we can file the claim on ebenefits then they will be more than happy to process my husband’s claims. So, we are in the process of gathering this evidence.
Frank is already service connected for PTSD but doesn’t have a separate rating for his PTSD.
There are several other listed issues, we feel, may also need to be connected to his time in service.
Dr. Goodman’s Letter
It was noticed that Dr. Goodman’s letter is not listed with the evidence but was listed in Frank’s Claims-file and used by the C&P VA examiner, Dr. Brockhoff. Dr. Brockhoff listed Dr. Goodman’s letter as a source of evidence listed in her examination. Dr. Goodman’s letter may have been overlooked when they considered Frank for SMC.
Some observations and history concerning Frank:
As stated above, most of these issues are in Frank’s Claims-File, to include medical records, statements from other marines, his mother, his former ministers, and an ex-wife. All these letters are listed as evidence in his VA records. I also included many VA medical records, photos, recent doctors’ letters, and other documentation and evidence.
There is also the issue of additional potential Service-Connected claims that were not pursued in the past.
I am trying to list all my husband’s problems, especially some that I think need immediate attention.
My husband is suffering from several issues to include physical, emotional, and cognitive. (You are aware of his resent issues with trying to commit suicide and being admitted to the hospital.) Some of these issues needed immediate attention. My biggest concern is, he has threatened and attempted suicide, which is of utmost concern to me.
Also, Frank Recently had to be rushed to the hospital by ambulance and was dizzy, passing out, having cramps. His whole body was seizing up; he was vomiting and was unable the stop the diarrhea and was unable to think. We don’t know what the cause of these issues are, or if there are multiple causes.
Other Health issues
Frank has recently tried to commit suicide several times
Another example of the seriousness of some of Frank’s issues is found in his records. on 07/16/2012 Dr. DAVID LEHMAN, a San Diego VA Doctor stated, “I am nominating this patient for catastrophic disability based on his GAF score of 20.”
Frank also has a fiduciary.
Frank believes he may have been in the mental hospital 10-15 times.
In the past, Frank’s mental disabilities have restricted him from pursuing help and compensation.
I must be with Frank 24/7 to prevent him from harming himself or others.
Some bad experiences in the Marines
While in the Marines, Frank was hit in the head with a pick-ax. He has had his life threatened, had almost died, had been assaulted and beaten several times, and sustained injuries on several occasions. He had been abused, harassed, and sexually harassed. He had almost drowned and suffocated to death. He had witnessed others being abused, beaten, he has witnessed awful injuries and death. He had helped to try and save a man’s life with first-aid and CPR. Some of these issues, we feel were the initial causes of his service-connected PTSD
Frank was in the US Marines from March 197---April 198-. Frank initially started learning self-defense and combat sports, mixed Martial arts, boxing, wrestling, and Pugil-stick fighting while he was in boot camp around April 197.
He wanted to fight for and represent the United States Marines with the hopes of going to the Olympics.
Frank’s history in the Marines
Combat sports and boxing
Frank started training and fighting in combat sports while in boot camp in 1977. Frank qualified high enough on his military aptitude tests to go to school to be a radio operator (MOS 2531), but Frank wanted to train in Martial arts. He soon became a full time boxer. He initially started sparring and fighting and learning combat sports while he was in boot camp around April 1977. These combat sports included mixed Martial arts, boxing, wrestling, and Pugil-stick fighting. While in the Marines, Frank was a boxer, kickboxer, and he also trained in many other combat sports such as wrestling, karate, hand to hand combat, and other self-defense related training to include training and sparring with pugil-sticks. (Pugil-sticks are used by the marines for hand to hand rifle and bayonet knife fighting and rifle-but strikes) please see pictures.
All The combat sports Frank was involved in required extensive training and full contact sparring, to include repeated kicks and blows to the head, body, and limbs. Frank often trained without proper head and hand protection. Frank would Train for six to ten hours a day. He routinely sparred nine rounds daily in full contact sessions in boxing and many other combat sports. These fights and sparring sessions were sometimes scary and brutal and would include kicks and blows to the head, body, and limbs, brutal takedowns, knockdowns, and grappling. Frank fought at 139 and 145-pound weight classes. Many of his sparring sessions would be against larger Heavyweight fighters, black belts from the Karate team, kickboxers, wrestlers, and many professionals with much more experience and much larger fighters. Many of these fights were very brutal, bloody, and could be quite scary to include injuries, knockdowns, and knockouts (please see SGT === Letter, B-- letter, Chin letter, and others in Frank’s Claims-File). These sparring sessions could get into long, drawn-out brutal battles. For example, on one occasion Frank fought a former golden glove champion boxer for an hour and 48 minutes.
Frank trained long and hard almost every day.
As part of Frank’s training, Frank worked hard on acquiring a hard stomach. He would do thousands of stomach exercises to include having someone repeatedly slam a heavy medicine ball down onto his stomach and allow others to slug him in the stomach repeatedly. I have seen him slug himself very hard in the stomach several times.
While in the marines, he was always running and doing boxer’s road work, which while running includes sprinting, stopping to do pushups, shadowboxing, and many other exercises. Often Frank would run with weights on his head, wrist weights, ankle weights, hand weights, and sometimes a heavy backpack full of sand, and wear combat boots. He typically did 5-7 miles of grueling roadwork. He also would work out his Neck excessively with weights. In the morning, while the other marines would run 5-7 miles, Frank would run circles around the platoon, sprint and do boxer’s road work, run backwards, sideways, stop to do pushups and then sprint to catch up with the platoon. Sometimes he would do this with weights as mentioned above. After the morning workout with his platoon, he would start his 8-9 hours of severe boxing training. Frank often ran 9-15 miles a day of hard running and sprints or 5-7 miles of boxer’s road work.
Besides the brutal sparring, Frank also has many other injuries from all the extreme and repetitive training in combat sports and other Marine training.
After getting out of the Marines, Frank has had a history of problems aside from his PTSD, TBI and other injuries, he also has trouble with his pancreas, liver, esophagus, gallbladder. (He has had acid reflux starting in the marines and in later years had an operation on his esophagus.) A VA doctor felt that Frank might have damaged some of his internal organs from blunt force blows to the abdomen.
Blow to the head from the Pick-axe
As I have already stated: In June 1979 Frank was also struck in the head with a heavy pickax during his time in service. They were digging a trench in rock. He fell and got dizzy several times. He received 12 stitches. He still has nightmares and bad memories from this incident.
On 04/22/1980 upon discharge from the Marines, Frank was given a 0% rating for occipital area scar, skull code 7805(according to his service medical records. As mentioned before, his scar is from a blow to the head with a pickax while in the Marines.)
Even today when seeing someone working with digging tools, pick-ax, ax, machete, or other such tools Frank will shudder if to close. He is leery to approach, and he always makes sure that he stays well outside of striking range. He always has his eyes on the man using the tool. He also has many nightmares that seem to be related to this incident.
Locked in an airtight sea cargo container
While in the Marines in Hawaii, Frank and another Marine were locked in a sea cargo container it was lunch time, and it was very hot, everyone had gone to lunch forgetting that they had left Frank and the other Marine locked in the container. As it started getting unbearably hot, the other marine thought he would cool the container off by spraying a fire extinguisher; this led to a frantic struggle to get oxygen, as there was only one small hole for both Marines to breathe from. Fortunately, someone eventually heard the yelling and opened the container before the situation turned tragic. Frank believed his life was over. He also has nightmares concerning similar situations and suffers from claustrophobia.
Locked in the gas chamber in boot camp
On another occasion, in boot camp, Frank was forced into the gas chamber without a gas mask, at least four times, this had the same frantic effect on Frank, of not being able to breathe and suffocating to death, causing extreme panic and fear for his life. The drill instructors only laughed as they watched Frank and several other marines frantically beat at the door trying to get fresh air. They were forced back into the chamber several times in the dark. They were told to find the hat with their name on it. The hats were located at the far end of the gas chamber, only after finding the hat with their name on it, would they be released from the gas chamber. The whole situation of being in the dark just made the situation more frantic. The first time Frank panicked, slamming the door open before the drill instructor was able to lock it. For this, he had to go in several more times without a gasmask. Frank said he would never forget the feeling it gave him of being trapped and feeling as if he were suffocating to death. He also has nightmares concerning similar situations and suffers from claustrophobia.
Almost Drowning in the ocean in Hawaii while training
on at least two different occasions, while training, Frank was sucked out to sea and almost drowned in the ocean. The tide was pulling him out, and he was already tired from doing roadwork and running. He was also training alone, so there was no one to help. He also has nightmares concerning similar situations and suffers from claustrophobia.
Crammed into a Cattle Car
While in boot camp, Frank and other marines were crammed into a cattle car, used for transporting troops. The last few marines were physically shoved into the already packed cattle car by three drill instructors, and then the doors were slammed shut. As the car started down the road, some of the marines started to panic and fight. It was hot, and it was hard to breathe. Some marines were trampled and hit by others. Some Marines fell to the floor, unable to rise due to cramped quarters. One marine was butted in the head with a rifle. Some marines were injured, and one marine sustained a broken nose. This was another case causing panic. Frank also has nightmares concerning similar situations and suffers from claustrophobia.
Also, in boot camp
On another occasion, all marines were told to hold their heavy sea bags out at arm’s length. Eventually, one marine passed out and fell to the ground hitting his head. Frank and others tried to help him but were told just to let him die because he dared to pass out during training.
Another marine tried to attempt suicide in Bootcamp drinking Brasso, a metal polish designed to remove tarnish from brass.
Also, in boot camp, another marine was killed with a grenade, and there were other incidences.
Recon water training
Frank also took the Marine Recon special forces test where you are pushed to the limit mentally and physically. This test also included severe water testing with full gear and a rubber rifle, and underwater testing even holding your breath to the point of passing out. Also, the instructor sprayed water up into Frank’s nose causing him to choke and cough and was sprayed in the testicle with a hard stream of water, during this ordeal they had to maintain their position of standing at attention. After passing the test, they were given a large mouthful of chewing tobacco and were not allowed to spit, so after a few minutes, they became violently sick. Frank did pass the recon test.
Teargas Grenades in the barracks
While Frank was stationed in Hawaii, someone tossed several large Cs teargas grenades into the barracks where Frank and other marines were sleeping. These grenades were designed for covering large areas for use in combat situations. Frank and other marines came out gasping and panicking as they ran from the barracks. They were on the second floor. In a panic, in cramped quarters, and gasping for air; they had to make it through a crowded corridor and down two flights of stairs, the whole area, to include many buildings full of troops, had to be evacuated. Dozens of firetrucks and military police came to the scene. The Teargas grenades scared everyone. The situation was frantic, and everyone was confused as to what was happening. There was a Serious interrogation. At first, Frank thought it was nerve gas that could kill you; they had had a class on biological warfare and nerve gas including the horrendous results of what it did to a person. You die while fully conscious and other horrible ways to die. There was a massive interrogation, and someone tried to blame Frank. Frank was told he could go to prison; this caused Frank much more stress than he was already dealing with. He also has nightmares concerning similar situations and suffers from claustrophobia.
Huge man sitting next to Frank on the Marine bus
While in the Marines, on another occasion, a large man sitting next to Frank on the bus stopped breathing. (Frank had learned first-aid while growing up and in the Marines.) Frank checked the man’s pulse, listened for breathing and yelled for help and took steps to start first aid. Frank and others had to perform CPR and walk the man to keep him alive. the man heart stopped, and he quit breathing eight times. It took a long time for the ambulance to come. The man’s sister was hysterical making the situation worse. The man later died. This incident took place about April or May 1979, around the same time Frank was assaulted, harassed, choked, and bitten.
For a long time, Frank would vomit, break down and cry without warning. He was having severe anxiety and panic attacks, bad nightmares, and more sleepwalking. He would try to hide all these issues from others, more rumors spread adding to him being even further harassed. This incident not only contributed to Frank’s PTSD, but Frank’s back ached for a long time after this incident. The man was well over 300 pounds and had to be supported as he was walked around to keep his heart working. He also has nightmares concerning similar situations.
Assaults, fights, and harassment, sexual harassment and threats in the marines
As stated earlier, while in the Marines, Frank had started to have cognitive issues. Frank also started having emotional problems. These issues led to some other Marines abusing and harassing Frank.
Frank’s cognitive issues were increasing. His thinking was slow; he was always confused and was not able to talk well. He did Not understand directions. He was getting tricked out of his money in card games. Frank was constantly being harassed for his slow thinking, slow speech, mistakes, and other mental and emotional impairments. He was jumpy and stressed. He was always getting made fun of, called weird, spastic, a moron, stupid, and retarded. He was Always getting harassed or getting treated as an outcast. He was teased because of his sleepwalking, sleep talking, screaming, and night-terrors. He was teased because he had urinated in his bed (Frank was in the top bunk) these are just some the many issues causing Frank such severe stress.
When he would sleepwalk, sometimes he would sleepwalk and get lost in the barracks, some marines would call him gay and say he was trying to get in their beds. All these rumors started to spread causing Frank much stress as the harassment intensified. Frank was embarrassed about the sleepwalking because of this and would claim he had been drunk.
Frank felt a lot of shame. After a tremendous amount of harassment and extreme embarrassment, eventually, Frank just wanted to leave and didn’t want to be in the Marines anymore. Out of desperation, In April 1979 Frank volunteered for a drinking program, he lied and said he had been drinking and had alcohol problems. He was transferred to this program, hoping things would change, But the rumors followed him, and he continued to get harassed and made fun of. Frank’s cognitive issues with TBI, sleepwalking, nightmares, and other similar issues; as always, continued to get worse. The Harassment started again but just seemed to increase. This is around the time Frank had his first suicidal thoughts.
There were two sergeants that were the main antagonist at this new unit. One named Eddy. Eddy was the group captain and sometimes oversaw the group therapy when the therapist wasn’t there. Frank was assigned to the group with these two sergeants. Both these sergeants were on the marine football team. This was intimidating as both these men were older, were much larger than Frank, and they were higher ranks and in a position of authority over Frank. All the other marines were also intimidated by these two sergeants. Eddy would often threaten to rape Frank. He said it made him feel like a man to force smaller pretty boys to have sex. He had claimed he had done this often. He also said he had been a gang member in New York City and was a street-fighter. The harassment, Jokes, and rumors were increasing and further exaggerated by these two Sergeant and their friends. They also made threats about trying to beat up Frank and saying he was to scrawny to be a fighter, and they would say they could knock him out with one punch. They often would challenge him to fights, shove him, or try to corner him and intimidate him. They would throw punches and kick towards Frank and act like they were going to strike him, and they would run their finger across their throat symbolizing cutting Frank’s throat or point their hand at Frank as if it were a pistol and pulling the trigger. These threats symbolized to kill Frank were intimidating and caused Frank a lot of stress. As a form of abuse, they would always assign Frank the worst jobs.
One early morning. About April or May 1979, Frank was attacked from behind, with blows to the back and side of his head, while still in bed, by Eddy’s friend, the other sergeant. Frank was able to stand and landed a punch that split the sergeant’s cheek open. As Frank’s back was turned again, the sergeant attacked Frank again, and Frank was held down and repeatedly punched and bitten on the back of the head, neck, ears, and back. He was trying to bite off Frank’s ear, choke him, and bite his throat. He was repeatedly saying he was going to kill Frank. Two of the bites were so bad that Frank had to take penicillin because the bites drew blood. The sergeant had to get stitches in his cheek. This sergeant was in charge of Frank in the barracks and was also the friend of Eddy. This sergeant was embarrassed because he had to get stitches in his cheek and got laughed at by his friends because Frank was so much smaller.
After the beating, the sergeants continued saying they were going to kill Frank. At this time Frank weighed about 145 pounds, and the other sergeant that had attacked Frank was a large football player, much larger than Frank, well over 200 pounds. After the incident, they kept trying to attack Frank and were constantly threatening him, saying they were going to kill him, and trying to corner Frank. This continued to go on for some time. These two sergeants would constantly make physical and sexual threats and try to corner him; often, several of their friends would join in with the verbal abuse and harassment.
This all happened around the time when the man died on the bus. The incident on the bus caused Frank to vomit several times; he was secretly crying and doing more sleepwalking. This just led to more harassment, fights, teasing, and harassment. Aside from the sexual harassment and bullying, Frank felt stupid and was always stressed. Frank was embarrassed and ashamed and just wanted out of the Marines. Frank still has the bite marks on his neck, back, and ear. Years later, Frank had the bite mark on his back he had covered with a tattoo.
During this time another Marine told Frank and others that he had been sexually abused during this time. He said he was going to report it but was scared due to reprisal. Frank never found out if it was reported and he can’t remember the Marines name.
Frank continued to get stalked and bullied by these two sergeants and their friends. They kept trying to corner Frank, push him around and threaten him. Several times they tried to gang up on and attack Frank. One day, the first-Sergeant, in charge of the unit finally caught them trying to corner and hit Frank, just as the fight started. The first-sergeant stopped the fight and told them to stop picking on Frank, or they would face serious military charges for assault and battery. Frank also has nightmares concerning similar situations.
During this time, Frank’s cognitive and emotional issues continued to get worse.
In June 1979 Frank was hit in the head with a pick ax. He fell and got dizzy several times. He received 12 stitches.
Frank feels he was stupid for not paying attention and got made fun of for getting hit with a pick ax.
At this point, Frank was having serious cognitive and emotional issues and was still considering suicide.
Knife threats in the Marines
on two different occasions Frank was threatened with a knife while in the marines, one time during a fight. The other marine was trying to grab a knife to stab Frank.
Another time another marine came up behind Frank, held a knife to Frank’s throat and threatened to kill him after Frank beat him in a kick boxing match. He also has nightmares concerning similar situations.
Other assaults on Frank, his friends, and other Marines off base
There was a time when Frank was jumped after boxing by civilians that hated Marines. Several of his friends and other fellow Marines were beaten, hospitalized, and some Marines were even killed due to the animosity between the Marines and the gangs. There were riots after one of his friends was severely injured and almost lost an eye; his whole face was black and blue. This often happened off base to Frank and several of his other friends. Several Marines had their head split open, noses broken, and several marines were even shot and killed. He also has nightmares concerning similar situations.
Frank represented the marine corps in several marathons, in one marathon Frank came in first place, but just before the finish line, he stopped to talk to some friends. Everyone yelled at him to cross the finish line, but he lost the first place for the Marines and was treated bad and called an idiot and mocked for a long time. This is another example of his cognitive issues. This also led to more harassment.
While in the Marines, Frank was so ashamed of his sleepwalking, that he would always say he had been drinking; for example, when Frank fell from a two-story building onto his back, while walking in his sleep, he said he had been drinking.
Some of the things Frank has done and been a witness to
Frank has seen people that were horribly injured due to beatings and accidents. He has had to administer first aid and CPR several times. He has seen people die and has had to handle dead bodies. Frank had been injured and almost killed numerous times. Many of these experiences continue to plague him to this day. He also has nightmares concerning similar situations and suffers from claustrophobia.
Frank leaves his duty station while in the Marines
Concerning his time in the Marines, after a tremendous amount of harassment Frank just wanted to leave and didn’t want to be in the Marines anymore. The harassment never ended. Frank finally couldn’t take it anymore. He had considered suicide several times. In December 1979, Frank went on leave and refused to go back to his duty station .
When he came home, Frank’s family was appalled at how he had deteriorated. His uncle took him to the congressman’s office, and Frank was transferred to a marine base with his brother. Frank's brother was also a Marine in California.
Frank and I first met in Poland.
There are a large park and forested area close to my home in Warsaw Poland. My 10-year-old son and I would go to this park almost every day, so my son could ride his bike, skate, feed the ducks in the lake, and so we could picnic and do other family activities. But at night this park is dangerous due to drinking, crime, gangs, and drugs. And it can get very cold in Poland for those that are homeless. Every year some of the homeless die of hyperthermia, muggings, and sickness.
The first time I met Frank was at this park. Frank had been living out of a backpack, tent, and sleeping-bag, pretty much homeless except for his occasional stays in hostels. Frank has rented apartments a few times over the last ten years, but he never seems to stay longer than a few months in one place. From what I understand Frank has constantly been moving, homeless, and at loose ends since leaving the Marines. The only stability Frank ever had was his marriage to Joyce Mac, his wife that helped him with his 1997 claim. Joyce was getting a lot of help from Berta and other hadit members through the years.
Continuing with how I got to know Frank:
One day I had to meet my ex-husband at this park concerning visitation with my son. My ex-husband is a violent man and has been arrested in the past for drug abuse, assault, and battery, he has also committed rape, and I have been hospitalized due to his beatings. He was a former drug addict. He has been diagnosed with schizophrenia, depression, and bi-polar disorder and often doesn’t take his medications. In the past, on several occasions, he had threatened to kill me and all four of my children. (I have three other children from my first marriage. My ex-husband, from my second marriage, the Father of Natanael, hadn’t had any contact with Natanael for over six years, on this particular day, my ex-husband started to get verbally aggressive, cornered me, started making threats, became enraged, and struck me, knocking me into a tree. I am not a very big person, I am only 4ft 8 inches tall and have a slight figure. My ex-husband thought we were alone, but before he could strike me again, Frank came running up and told my ex-husband he would ‘smash his head like a grape’ if he struck me again. Frank had heard all the yelling and had been watching the whole confrontation before he intervened. Fortunately, my ex-husband backed down and left screaming threats as he walked away. This was dangerous on Frank’s part because my ex-husband is a Gypsy (known as Roma) and he has a big family, he is dangerous, and has many unscrupulous connections in the community. Frank did save me from a probable beating, but in doing so, he put himself at risk and further enraged my ex-husband. The police came but were unable to find my ex-husband. I decided not to press charges to avoid further resentment and potential retaliation.
Frank at the time did not look like he had eaten, or had had a shower in a long time, his clothing was filthy, and he badly needed a haircut and a shave. Frank also had a stray cat that was sick and slept with him; the cat had a severe case of ringworm which Frank also caught. Frank and the cat both needed treatments to get rid of the ringworm. Frank also needed treatment for bedbugs, and we had to throw away all his infested clothing. Over time, the three of us developed a friendship and eventually we ended up moving in together. We did not feel safe with the situation with My ex-husband, his family, and friends continually harassing us and making threats. It would just be a matter of time before something happened. My ex-husband and I had been separated for around seven years. The situation was always stressful and worrisome; we always had the constant threats and concern for our safety.
After talking to the police, the district attorney, my lawyer, my therapist, and child protective services, about January 2017, we decided it was no longer safe for my son or myself to live in Poland. Out of concern for the Safety of my family, we left Poland and moved to Cyprus. Also, Frank and I had finally decided to get Married and decided we would get married in Cyprus.
Frank, my son, and I are currently living In Cyprus. We were initially living in Poland, but Frank and I got married in Cyprus and we have all been living in Cyprus ever since.
We are trying to get to the United States so that Frank and I can get Proper medical care as soon as possible. Frank refuses to leave my son and I here alone.
Frank has always been good to my son and me
Frank has been married six times; I am his sixth wife. The only successful marriage Frank had was with Joyce Mac; they were married for over twenty years. I don’t think most people can understand what it’s like to have or live with someone who suffers from PTSD, TBI, and other issues like depression. I Have worked with the disabled for many years; I myself have many disabilities. Also, my father suffers from dementia. I have a brother with TBI, caused by an automobile accident. My brother also abuses alcohol. My mother suffers from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD, depression, and alcoholism. So, I have a good understanding of these issues.
As I said, I have worked in, and also earned a bachelor’s degree in Pedagogy in the fields of education and social work. I am currently working on my master’s thesis in the same field. I also studied English for several years in school. I have worked with the disabled and have been the director of two different companies and have held numerous other management positions in this field. So, my work experience, my own experience, and helping with my father and my family has helped me tremendously in helping Frank.
Concerning Frank’s driving and our car accident in Poland.
Concerning Frank’s suicidal issues, I am always on guard. I just recently convinced him to call the VA help line, and after almost three years, and he finally admitted he had attempted suicide several times in the past. The local doctor knows about his PTSD and some of his other issues, but Frank refused to talk about the suicide issues. Frank has agreed to get help from the VA crises team on a weekly basis and is willing to get further help now from the VA. I feel a little better that the VA is now involved, and Frank has now talked to them about it, we have recently made some arrangements with the Foreign Medical Program (FMP) for him to get some care while we are in Cyprus. He just recently got out of the psychiatric hospital for attempting suicide. He is now in therapy.
The below list includes the main issues we feel could be considered for service connection.
1. Frank has continuous tension headaches with frequent throbbing and completely debilitating monthly migraines. His headaches started when he was in the Marines.
2. Frank needs to be considered for A&A Due to his cognitive deficits and emotional issues. He is a hazard to himself and others. He has injured himself and others. And Frank requires my help daily.
3. Frank needs his TBI separated from his PTSD with each being assigned separate ratings.
4. Frank needs counselling and proper medications. I am concerned about his issues with suicide. I believe he needs to go to the VA when we go to California.
5. He has hearing loss and constant ear ringing. If possible, he may need hearing aids.
6. He has bad ankles, but it’s mostly his right ankle that fails. He has fallen several times due to his ankle failure.
7. He has pain in his right elbow, restricting him in certain activities.
8. His hands bother him, they ache, and sometimes he can’t even make a fist.
9. He has a bad right thumb. This also limits some of his activities.
10. his feet bother him, sometimes he has a hard time walking
11. he has stinging red eyes that water all the time, possibly conjunctivitis, which started in boot camp.
12. his neck aches and is stiff, which makes it painful for him to turn his head to the side.
13. His back bothers him and limits what he can do physically, especially in the morning or after certain physical activity, like bending over to wash dishes, vacuum, or lifting.
14. He suffers from depression, panic attacks, insomnia, night terror, anxiety, He has bad memories, stress, anger issues, and has suicidal thoughts, tendencies, and has made several suicide attempts.
15. he occasionally has some problems with TMJ with ear popping and sharp pain in his jaw joint.
16. He has gastrointestinal problems and acid reflux. He has had an operation on his esophagus, but he is still bothered by acid.
17. he has Aching shoulders, mostly his right shoulder
18. Frank often suffers from erectile dysfunction; often he can’t get an erection and/or can’t have an orgasm. It seems that this happens more often when he is stressed, has a migraine, lacking sleep, and/or is having issues with his PTSD.
19. Frank gets dizzy, has passed out, and gets nauseous. He has fallen and injured himself several times
20. should Frank get his headaches connected as secondary to his TBI? He has continuous tension headaches with frequent throbbing monthly debilitating migraines.
Frank’s health issues
Frank also gets dizzy a lot and has fallen several times. He Recently fell and cut his knee open, he needed stitches but refused to go to the hospital. He has fallen several times injuring himself. He has fallen down the stairs several times. He often gets dizzy, off balance, and, also, has vision problems. We don’t know if these, above mentioned issues, are related; for example, his heart issues, TBIs, panic attacks, gastrointestinal issues, headaches, vertigo, or something else, but most of these problems have been an issue since he was in the Marines. But we want to get back to California, so he can get all these issues checked and examined at the VA.
He has issues with hypoglycemia and possible diabetes.
He often gets Shaky, nauseous, hungry, and can’t think.
While in the Marines, after a boxing match, he had blood in his urine for about two weeks.
He has bad ankles that give out, mostly his right ankle. One time while running in the marines he tripped in a mongoose hole and sprained his ankle. His ankles give out causing him to fall. His right ankle is far worse and is the one he damaged in the marines. We think his left ankle was damaged due to the damage of his right ankle. He later sprained his left ankle hopping on one leg.
he uses a cane sometimes due to back aches and uses a crutch when he twists his ankle.
He takes medication for back pain, neck pain, headaches, and other pains.
He has TMJ, he sometimes has a stabbing pain and popping in the jaw and ear.
Frank had his Bicuspid Aortic heart Valve replaced around 2005.
As I said, Frank gets dizzy and off balance often, and has often fallen, passed out, and gotten nauseous, and has injured himself. He has chronic recurrent diarrhea or constipation; He has constant bouts of acid and gas. He had soiled himself many times. These and his mental issues and cognitive issues often keep him from leaving the house.
Some of Frank’s other health issues
Aside from Frank’s TBI, PTSD, suicidal attempts and thoughts, conflicts and issues with violence, and other mental issues; Frank continues to suffer from extreme Migraines and tension headache. His hands ache and bother him; sometimes he can’t even make a full fist. He has hearing loss, and he has ear ringing that never stops. He has a bad back that gives him problems. his feet hurt, sometimes making it hard for him to walk. He has a problem thumb, bad ankles, pain in the right elbow, shoulder pain, stinging red eyes, a stiff neck, TMJ, and he has several other injuries and issues we feel are related to his time in the Marines.
He also has anger issues and depression.
He has continuous tension headaches with frequent throbbing monthly debilitating migraines. Most of these medical issues (to include his headaches) are documented in his VA records.
Many of these complaints, including the headaches, have been at issue since serving in the Marines. For about three years now I have witnessed most of Frank’s issues mentioned above.
On 04/22/1980 upon discharge from the Marines, Frank was given a 0% rating for occipital area scar, skull code 7805 (according to his service medical records, his scar is from a blow from a pick ax.
He continues to suffer from extreme Migraines and tension headaches. He has constant tension headaches and neck aches all the time; they are always present. But also, he gets severe throbbing migraines.
Headaches descriptions and patterns
Frank has constant tension headaches and neck aches all the time; they are always present. But also, he gets severe, throbbing, prostrating migraines headaches that completely stop him from functioning at all.
His tension headaches never go away. He has had headache issues since serving in the Marines.
When he gets the throbbing migraines, he must quietly lay down in a cold dark room, with a wet washcloth or ice pack on his head.
He gets severe, throbbing, prostrating migraines headaches that completely stop him from functioning at all. These severe throbbing headaches occur about three to seven times a month and can last for three hours to three days and completely stop him from functioning at all. This has been his typical monthly migraine pattern for the last three years.
He takes pain medication, but this only seems to dull the headache pain. He has been prescribed several other medications for migraines, but these headache medications have not seemed to help much either.
Sometimes his migraines cause him to get nauseous and sometimes cause him to vomit. When he gets the throbbing migraines, his head hurts so bad he can’t think or function. He will sometimes become so frustrated he will hit himself in the head or bang his head on the wall. His migraine headaches get so bad that Frank will say he wished he would just die.
I have tried to get Frank to get help for his headaches, but he said doctors couldn’t help. He has tried all kinds of medication for migraines, but all he can do is stay cool take, high-dosage ibuprofen as soon as they start, and stay silent till the pounding stops. He will lie in a dark, quiet room for hours and sometimes two or three days. He stays in the dark, stays out of the heat, and cannot tolerate loud noises, bright light, sun glare, and talking or any kind of physical activity. Sometimes Frank’s head feels inflated like a swelling water balloon ready to burst. Usually, the throbbing is on both sides of the head, but sometimes on the left side.
When Frank feels a migraine starting, he takes strong ibuprofen. When it is hot, he often avoids going out due to fearing to get a severe Migraine. He must stay in the house, avoid the sun, not exert himself and stay cool.
Bright lights, sun glare, loud noises, hot weather, physical exertion, including sexual activity can start his pounding migraines. The throbbing can be so bad that he is unable to sleep.
Before his headaches start to throb, he often complains of seeing flashes of light, blind spots, wavy zigzag and or double vision. He gets blurred, and tunnel vision and sometimes everything turns completely black for a few moments.
He has constant tinnitus. He has dizziness, blurred vision, and sleep disturbance. He is often Lightheaded, confused and exhausted after a severe migraine. Heat, bright lights, and sunlight always bothers him.
Frank was a fighter and has taken many blows to the head; he was also hit in the head with a pickax and has an old scar from the blow, he had a deep cut that needed 12 stitches. He has also been assaulted and pummeled about the head and neck. He has a service-connected rating of 0% for the scar from the pic-ax wound in 1980.
He has been told that it is more likely than not, that being struck in the head with a pick axe and serving in the Marine Corp as a full-time boxer and his participation in other combat sports directly contributed and or caused the lifelong prostrating headaches and migraines that he suffers on a daily basis.
Frank doesn’t use good judgement, has a bad memory, and I must help him daily
Frank is a danger to himself and others. Frank has walked across the street without looking. Three months ago, he got hit by a car. Fortunately, the driver was able to slow down with Frank sustaining minor injuries. I tried to get him to go to the hospital, but he refused. He had bruises and a sore leg for about three weeks. Just the other day he almost got hit by a car again because he hadn’t looked before crossing the road. This was aside from his attempt to commit suicide by walking out in front of a truck and almost getting hit and almost causing an accident.
He has also gotten angry and slammed his head into the wall, hit himself in the head, hit the walls, and has done many other things to hurt himself. He has risky behavior which has endangered his life and others many times. He has thoughts of suicide and has made several attempts to kill himself.
Car accident in Poland and other judgement issues
Frank’s driving is dangerous, he has slow reactions, swerves into the other lane, and goes off the shoulder of the road. He has many other issues when driving, and he has had several accidents and many close calls. While still in Poland, just before our wedding date, we were involved in a five-car automobile accident, and I sustained serious injuries to my spine. Frank was responsible for the car accident; he rear-ended the car in front of us due to his slow reactions, not paying attention, and not focusing on the road. He got a fine for driving without a license and causing the accident. He was almost taken to jail. I had to be hospitalized for eight days and must get another spinal surgery. The only reason Frank was driving is that I was unable to drive due to previous multiple spinal surgeries and my back was hurting too much for us to take public transportation. I was unable to walk any distance that day. So, I asked Frank to drive, and we rented a car. We usually use public transportation. I wasn’t aware that in California, around 1997, his driver’s license was revoked because of the danger of him driving. Frank and I both agree that he should not be driving anymore; he has had many close calls. We still owe the rental company money because the car was destroyed.
As I came to know Frank, Frank doesn’t use good judgment and takes many risky chances. Besides his confrontation with my ex-husband, I have seen Frank get in many fights and other confrontations.
He has often made dangerous and unsafe choices. For example, sleeping in a dangerous Park. Confronting my enraged husband. Sleeping with an obviously sick cat. Not taking care of his health. not eating right. Taking long swims in rough ocean waters. Not taking care of immigration and legal issues. Leaving the Gas on and unlit on the stove. leaving things cooking and forgetting until they burn. Ignoring his health issues, these are just some of the examples of the many situations were Frank has taken unnecessary risks or put himself and others in danger due to his cognitive deficits and emotional issues.
I have listed many other examples below. I must always watch him. I am also concerned about his safety concerning suicide and being dangerous because of his bad memory and risky behavior and cognitive deficits.
Besides having to keep Frank safe, I have been helping Frank by keeping things organized. I help him with his medical issues, organize his appointments, give him his medications, and I help to gather and organize the information needed for the immigration, Visa’s, the VA, his legal issues, manage his financial issues, monitor his health issues, make sure he eats, make sure he is safe, make sure he is properly clothed, monitor his hygiene, and many other issues.
We lived in Poland for around two years, I tried to teach Frank some basic Polish, but no matter how hard we tried, Frank was unable to learn any Polish. The same thing in Cyprus, Frank has been here for around two years and cannot speak any Greek.
Due to his mental issues and poor memory, Frank is neglectful and forgetful concerning his personal care; to include his hygiene, medical care, his appearance, paying bills, preparing and making it to important appointments.
Frank also has a lot of trouble reporting his medical issues to the doctor.
He has many legal issues and financial issues, and many other issues with keeping organized and keeping track of time, dates, appointments, getting lost, getting sidetracked, and more
For example. Frank will call people and forget who or why he called that person. People get impatient with him and will hang up on him.
His memory and slow reactions are always an ongoing issue. This causes a lot of frustration, confusion, and a lot of stress in his life and others.
For example: During his medical appointments Frank forgets what his problems are, forgets times, and dates, and mixes time periods and incidents up.
Frank gets stressed and is also ashamed to talk about his problems and will not and/or is often unable to give the complete details and information about the issues he is having. For example, he is very ashamed about having suicide issues and other cognitive and emotional problems but will not get into any details about personal issues such as suicide.
Also, he often doesn’t understand the questions asked but will act as if he understands.
Often the questions are asked too rapidly for Frank to process the information. He gets confused and spaces out.
Frank will not complain even if he is in pain.
Frank often appears to understand what the doctors are telling him but often has very little understanding of what the doctor said. This has been an issue with immigration, his legal and medical issues and so on. It also causes serious issues and constant misunderstandings with others.
Frank Is also very ashamed of his medical and mental issues and hates getting asked personal questions. Frank will often just agree that he understands so he can end the appointment. Often, he will not talk about personal issues.
Also, he has gotten in trouble because of missing immigration appointments and not following immigration laws. He also has legal issues due to forgetting to make appointments and paying fines and bills and other responsibilities.
He currently has several legal issues in Poland, and the United States too. All related to his issues with TBI and PTSD.
His bad memory is an ongoing issue and continues to cause him and others much frustration. It causes many misunderstanding and other communication issues causing Frank many problems.
Besides helping Frank keep his life organized, I help him write notes, pay his bills, help him write emails and letters, fill out forms and other paperwork, and help him with his legal problems and fines. I also try to attend his appointments, for example, his immigration, legal, and medical appointments. I want to make sure the doctor properly understands all Frank’s mental and medical issues, and make sure he gets the help he needs; I do the same at his other appointments too. Often, I bring a list to make his issues clear to others.
I know that Frank’s former wife, Joyce Mac did the same thing. Frank’s mother and sister also helped him get proper care by attending some of his appointments with him, but his mother is quite old, and his sister has her own family. If it weren’t for Joyce Mac, Frank would have never gotten the help he needed.
Before Frank married Joyce Mac, his life was in complete disarray, and after Joyce died, his life went back to complete chaos. He was homeless, derelict, reckless, jobless and was constantly getting into dangerous situations and fights. Joyce Mac was the stabilizing factor in Frank’s life. So just like Joyce Mac, I try to help my husband stay organized. I make sure Frank is properly dressed and groomed. I will try to have a list, and I try to attend his appointments with him. I pay his bills, make sure he takes his medications on time, make sure he is safe. I monitor his blood-pressure, test his sugar levels, make sure he eats properly and on time. I must watch that he doesn’t cause harm to himself or others and much more.
After getting out of the marines, Frank was reckless and had bad judgement
When climbing a tree, he stabbed himself in the leg with a tree climbing spike, cut himself with a saw several times, and has had many close calls and other injuries while working without protective gear and not using good judgement. He has many times almost been killed working in trees, logging, doing tree removal, or working with dangerous equipment; he has also hurt and almost killed other workers.
Sometimes I am suspicious that he had intended to have a fatal accident. Frank grew up doing this kind of work and had always been safe.
After leaving the Marines, Frank was reckless and had cognitive deficits that seriously affected his job performance and created safety issues for himself and his co-workers. He had a hard time getting a job and was often unemployed due to these disabilities.
Due to Frank’s bad memory, I must take his blood pressure, do his blood sugar test, watch his diet, and make sure he takes his medications, as well as make sure he is safe. I pick out his clothing and make sure he takes care of his hygienic issues.
He can be dangerous; he leaves the gas on or the fire burning. Once we had a stove explosion in Poland. He is unable to prepare hot meals because I don’t want him using the gas. He also forgets things are cooking and lets them burn.
He has left the water running all night leaving the tank dry. This tank is also shared by the Nabors
I handle all the finances. Frank often gets lost if he goes out by himself. If I let him, he will just eat box cereal three times a day and doesn’t consider his nutritional needs. He is oblivious to his appearance and hygiene, and due to depression, he wouldn’t care anyway.
I must manage all his medical issues, making his doctor’s appointments, and making sure the doctor is informed of Frank’s issues. He constantly Repeats himself. Frank forgets to shave, shower, change clothes, brush his teeth. He would eat bad food, old food, just bread, and butter, or cereal, or hotdogs every day if I didn’t keep an eye on him.
He has sprayed insect spray and set off bug bombs in the house while we were still in the house. He was going to light a BBQ on the small porch. The wind would have carried all the fumes through the house.
Frank will forget that he talked to someone and asked the same question from the same person several times. Often people become impatient with him.
Frank forgets to eat and use the bathroom.
He calls people by the wrong name, including my son and me. He forgets who people are and that he has talked to this person several times. Sometimes he doesn’t remember ever meeting them.
We have lived in the same place, in Cyprus, for about two years, and he still can’t find his way home, this was the same issue we had in Poland too.
He places things in strange places, like putting the Milk in the cabinet, the cereal in the refrigerator, the salad in the freezer, the car keys in the fridge, and many things like this.
He doesn’t handle money. He forgets names of family or friends. He fails to recognize people or confuse them with others. Frank forgets the names of his family, granddaughter, nieces, people he knows and forgets conversations he has had. Frank never knows the date and has been lost many times. He will make calls and forget who he called.
Frank has never been capable of managing money, bills, appointment, or any of his financial affairs. Frank forgets to shave, loses the keys, loses his wallet, forgets where he is and has even forgotten his mother’s name, our phone number, and our address.
He forgets to eat, which is dangerous because of his hypoglycemia; Frank has had some emergency situations because he forgot to eat. He has almost died and has had to go to the emergency room several times.
He forgets about taking his blood sugar test, again this has been very dangerous. I must take his blood sugar test, blood pressure and make sure he remembers to eat and take his medication. He even forgets to take his medication when he has a panic attack.
He was almost killed on a motorcycle, killed working in trees, has been electrocuted, cut a branch and hit in the head. Cut his climbing line, cut himself out of a tree, and almost turned over several trucks full of cement, logs, chips, rear-ending other cars, and swerving into oncoming traffic. He has almost hit others and been hit by falling trees, logs, and branches. Frank can’t understand rapid or complicated explanations and directions
Frank always needs my help. Frank has trouble with cooking, doing chores, shopping, traveling, doing laundry, cleaning, being responsible for his medications, using the cellphone, and computer.
He forgot how to read maps even though he had to reads maps before joining the marines and had map-reading training as a radio operator.
He completely loses track of time, to include the time of day, month, year, important dates, and events. Frank doesn’t know his age or the ages of anyone else in his family. He forgets dates, holidays, past events in his life, places he has visited and when.
Frank gets lost even in familiar surroundings, can’t read a map, even though he was trained to use a map as a field radio operator. Frank can’t tell the difference between a panic attack, low sugar, acid, or heart issues. This also causes him stress.
He has been on probation for fighting and not paying tickets and following court orders. He still has financial issues for forgetting to pay the fines for fighting in public, the automobile accident he caused in Poland, and other legal issues. For example, not paying bills in Germany, fines in Poland, property taxes in California. He doesn’t owe anything for property tax, but he just forgot to bring in his paperwork. The same issue in Germany and some of these other issues, but he forgets or doesn’t understand how to straighten out the problems.
He forgets my name sometimes, and his mother's name, and never remembers many other people’s names. Often forgets he has met people before. Frank often calls me Joyce or Allison.
It is very hard for Frank to learn new things and remember new things.
Frank often is slow or does not recognize familiar things, people, and conversations.
He has Slowed speech. He has a delayed response to questions.
Frank doesn’t know his own age or the ages of anyone else in his family, birth dates, holidays, past events in his life, places he has visited and when.
He has lost four wedding rings since we got married.
Before we got Married, we had to order all Frank’s legal documents; he had lost every legal document he had ever had and can’t remember what happened to them.
He rarely knows who’s in government, for example knowing who the president is, vice-president, or any other political issues.
Job related problems
After the Marines, Frank couldn’t remember how to get back to the job. He would forget tools. He reacted to slowly and didn’t understand directions. He was dangerous to work around. Frank didn’t like getting yelled at. He often had conflicts at work due to these issues; this would lead to arguments and physical altercations. Frank would miss a lot of work due to headaches and lack of sleep. His hearing was also a problem, and his back was always an issue.
When his wife, Joyce Mac was sick with cancer, the VA doctor had a visiting nurse come to their home to help Frank with his medications and other issues caused by his cognitive deficits, because his wife was unable to help due to her leukemia. His mother was also living with them and helping take care of Frank’s bills, and other things he is unable to do.
In 1998, the VA felt Frank was incapable of managing his VA compensation money. Frank was assigned a fiduciary.
The VA had rated him as incompetent in 1997 when he received his 100 percent rating, and Frank was put under the control of the VA fiduciary department.
Frank was also assigned a full-time fiduciary after his wife died in 2008.
He has many times almost been killed working in trees, logging, doing tree removal, or working with dangerous equipment. he has been electrocuted several times
Frank used to enjoy football, baseball, soccer, basketball, and other sports, but Can’t catch a baseball or football anymore, Frank even has a hard time catching the keys. He also forgot the rules. He doesn’t even like to watch it on tv now.
Frank forgets to eat or drink he never remembers to drink water, even if it is hot. He has gotten dangerously dehydrated and had to go to the hospital and be put on an IV.
Often, he forgets to go to the bathroom. Sometimes holding it for hours. He has soiled himself several times
He will wear a flannel shirt when it is hot, and no shoes and a t-shirt when it’s cold. He seems to be completely oblivious to dressing properly for the weather conditions.
Frank can’t figure out how to operate the TV controller, cell phone, he has trouble with the computer, and has trouble with other electronic devices
I must go with him for shopping or running errands, or he gets lost or will forget what to buy
Frank often gets lost if he goes out by himself.
he is oblivious to his appearance and hygiene, and due to depression, he wouldn’t care anyway
He forgot how to spell, how to do arithmetic, how to read music, play chess, and much more
He constantly Repeats himself
As I have stated his judgement and choices are not safe. He has jumped in the freezing cold water to help save people while it was snowing during bad storms.
Another time he jumped into the icy water to save a dog.
Because he lost or had his backpack and luggage stolen, he has been left stranded in the cold, with no money, without food, or proper clothing.
He forgot his jacket and hitchhiked with only a t-shirt, he was awake all night trying to stay warm with his teeth chattering all night, this type of thing has happened several times and in Poland
Often, he has worn wet clothing on cold rainy days. He has gotten very sick
Frank often forgets to eat gets too skinny and goes days without eating or drinking. Other times he binges and has become obese.
Many in Frank’s family are educated, well dressed and successful; but Frank is oblivious to his appearance. He is usually unkept, has messy hair, dirty clothing, is not dressed appropriately, is sloppy, and has baggy clothing, worn out dirty clothing and shoes.
He will leave the heater on in the car and wonder why he is sweating.
Frank doesn’t wear appropriate clothing, will wear the same clothing every day, sometimes for months
Frank Forgot to wear his underwear for an MRI scan
Frank forgets to shave, shower, change clothes, brush his teeth.
He forgot how to spell his middle name after getting out of the Marines
Frank repeats himself a lot, he also forgets and asks the same question over and over again.
Frank flipped off the cook in the restaurant the other day when he meant to give him the thumbs up because he liked the fish dinner.
We have lived in the same place for over a year and a half, and he still can’t find his way home. We also lived in Poland for over a year, and he was always lost too.
Frank feels a lot of guilt because he was responsible for the car accident, we had in Poland that caused my spinal injury. He also feels guilty because we are having a hard time getting into the United States for the serious medical needs required. He has said if I die, then he will die
Frank was put in Jail for not paying dozens of traffic tickets and for not returning his children on time
He has many times forgotten to pay traffic tickets and pay bills. Most of his tickets were just parking tickets he forgot to pay.
He almost let his passport expire
he was always getting lost in Europe and having problems
He hasn’t taken care of his health; he has almost died several times, stranded in the cold, without food. This has happened in California and other parts of the US, China, Greece, Turkey, Poland, Hungary Ukraine, and Mexico.
He was always missing or taking the wrong train or tram and losing his luggage
He was always getting stranded
He forgets how many years ago he got heart surgery, and forgot he had pancreatitis and needed his gall bladder removed, needed his heart checked, dental work, and many other medical issues.
He constantly loses important documents, his wallet, his debit cards, his money, and many other things.
He doesn’t even remember what cities or countries he has been too or lived in.
After leaving the Marines, his spelling, grammar, punctuation, mathematics, history, are pathetic.
He is no longer is interested in reading. As a kid, he read a lot
He Forgets his address and phone number
He can’t tell you accurately where or when he lived since leaving the marines
He is unable to understand instructions and directions
He is slow at learning new things
Frank has put on his jacket and forgot to put on a shirt first; he forgets to put on his underwear, he wears hot clothing when it is hot, and will not understand he has not dressed properly for the cold.
He is oblivious to properly dressing in color coordinated clothes, and Frankwill wear the same dirty clothing every day for a month or longer
Frank often gets ripped off because he can’t calculate the change he is owed.
All these issues require my aid
he will lose the thread of a conversation
doesn’t grasp complex ideas
he fails to recognize people or confuse them with others
One-time Frank Went to the store in only his robe but didn’t realize it until someone said something to him.
Frank Broke the shower flooding the apartment.
My 10-year-old son has had to turn off the gas stove, water, and close the refrigerator several times.
Frank drove off while the gas nozzle was still connected ripping it off of the gas pump. The gas station attendant had to use the emergency shut off switch.
Just recently at the hospital, he was constantly getting lost.
He has filled up trucks and cars with the wrong fuel type
He is usually unkept, scruffy, needs a haircut and forgets to shave.
He forgets to take a shower, brush his hair, change his clothes, and take his medication, and brush his teeth.
In Poland, he has left the tub running flooding the apartment several times.
He has left the fire on the stove burning almost starting a fire.
He has gotten lost and just slept in a trash dumpster full of cardboard till morning or sleep in the bushes.
He will drink water out of the bathroom sink, hose or streams
When he was married to Joyce Mac, the fire department came, because he left the stove on, burning a large pot of beans, and almost starting a fire. The landlord asked them to move because of the hazard of Frank starting a fire and smoke damage.
He often forgets where he is, even what country he is in. This is bad when he wakes in the night and doesn’t know where he is.
He forgets to eat, which is dangerous because of his hypoglycemia; Frank has had some emergency situations because he forgot to eat. He has almost died and has had to go to the emergency room several times, again this has been very dangerous.
He has gotten his money and personal possessions stolen several times
He lost all his legal documents, and I had to help him order all his documents so that we could be married
He is easily disoriented
I have never seen Frank wash his clothes. He just had all his clothes crammed in his backpack and bag. His dirty laundry mixed with his clean laundry.
He can’t ever find his clothes, and I must help him find his cloths and pick out appropriate clothing
People will try to take advantage of him
I always must watch him with money, so he isn’t cheated
He was almost killed on a motorcycle, killed working in trees, has been electrocuted, cut a branch and hit in the head. Cut his climbing line fell 40ft, cut himself out of a tree, and almost turned over several trucks full of cement, logs, chips, rear-ending other cars, and swerving into oncoming traffic
He takes a shower and puts on dirty clothes
He Bought illegal marijuana in Poland. He could have gone to jail. This is a serious offence in Poland
He Doesn’t remember the dates of when his wife died, his heart surgery, doesn’t know how to use the washer.
He Forgets to buy hygienics, no haircut, nail trimming, hair trimming; he puts on different color socks.
when he gets a cut or gets sick, he doesn’t take care of himself or go to the doctor.
He always leaves the fridge and freezer open
He has trouble understanding directions, things he is reading, road signs. He can’t think fast enough to understand these things.
He wasn’t thinking and stabbed himself in the leg with a tree Climbing spurs on at least two different occasions.
Frank can’t ever remember the names of friends and people he has met many times. Many times, he can’t even remember the names of family members. He has even forgotten his mother’s name and forgot how to spell his middle name.
Frank can’t understand rapid or complicated explanations directions
He Can’t remember and follow directions, for example, taking his medications or which ones to take, how much to take and when to take them. He also can’t remember if he had already taken his medication.
Frank couldn’t figure out how to use the cell phone to call me for help when he had low blood sugar when he was alone. He couldn’t think and was very sick
He Never remembers passwords and loses the papers there written on.
He has let crabs pinch him, animals bite him, and insects sting him, and other forms of self-abuse. He also stabbed himself in the hand with a screwdriver
He is constantly forgetting appointments, and never completes simple everyday tasks.
He Always gets lost trying to come home even after living here for well over a year. He had the same problem in Poland; he was constantly getting lost. Taking the wrong bus, and even just walking. I make sure he has a simple cellphone, and my phone number is in his wallet.
Frank always forgets how faraway places are.
He Has problems remembering words
Frank forgets to wear eye protection when working and has injured his eyes
He is ashamed to admit he doesn’t understand
He will not report many of his problems voluntarily
He forgot he needed his gallbladder removed
He has Trouble staying focused
He can’t remember when or where he lived since leaving the marines. He Can’t remember his address, phone number, my birthday, or the ages of friends, family, or himself.
He always loses phone numbers and other things. He has tried to keep things on a notepad but loses it or can’t understand what he wrote in it
He has difficulty concentrating
he is often dazed, disoriented, confused
he forgets to put on sunscreen and gets bad sunburns
he lost baggage and had to have train station personnel help him find it.
He also lost all his baggage when he came back home from his duty station in Hawaii.
He has gotten pickpocketed, robbed, and had all his baggage stolen.
He has had his computer, iPad and cellphone stolen. And he has gotten conned out of his money.
I have caught him Mixing bleach and other chemicals together for cleaning and trying to clean, but having a hard time breathing. But he just held a rag over his mouth and kept cleaning until I convinced him to come outside until the air cleared out.
He has also Put a metal cup and other metal objects in the microwave.
I don’t trust him to prepare his own meals when using the stove, oven, or even the microwave.
He got robbed in Ukraine; he was in Ukraine while there was a war.
He also got robbed and stranded without money in turkey.
He doesn’t take care of his health issues. He almost died in china and had to be taken to the hospital after he passed out, he was in the hospital for several days. They wanted to remove his gallbladder, he also had low sugar and was dehydrated from vomiting and diarrhea. He didn’t even remember how he got to the hospital. He has had this type of thing happen many times but will refuse to go to the hospital.
He has lost his ATM card many times by forgetting to take it out of the machine. He has also forgotten to take his money out of the machine.
In Poland, I bought him, a simple to use, cell phone he was Always getting lost and is calling me to get him. He would get lost on the bus, tram, and walking
He hitchhiked with only a t-shirt tooth chattering all night same in Poland forgets it will be cold later.
He has Sprayed insect spray in the house to kill a fly; he has done the same thing trying to kill a cockroach.
He has also set off bug bombs while we were still in the house. He thought it was ok because we were in another room
he just lived in hostels for the last few years and camped when he ran out of money.
He Gives money to street people that are scammers
He is Very forgetful concerning recent events, but better at remembering the past, but he has forgotten much and gets his facts mixt up.
He must be reminded to eat, wash, dress and use the toilet. Frankwill have to go to the bathroom and forget.
Has almost been killed in trees and electrical lines many times
He was electrocuted and had to go to the hospital
He is always wondering around the house looking for things he lost
He loses track of time; for example, he will think a year is only two months or that ten years was only two years.
He Forgets where he parks the car and almost got into a fight when he was sitting in another man’s car
We owe money because of the accident in Poland because it was Frank’s fault
He forgets and starts Sharpening tools without eye protection. He Has gotten Metal filings in his eyes
He poured gasoline all over his body after working in poison oak. Someone told him it would get rid of his poison oak rash.
He believes what people tell him and then they make fun of him.
He Swam all the way out to the ships and almost got bit by a seal in California
At one time he had Overdue parking tickets in Santa Barbara that added up to almost 2,000 dollars because he neglected to pay them. Most were just parking tickets.
He has had to go to jail for similar situations.
Frank doesn’t know his age or the ages of anyone else in his family. He forgets dates, holidays, past events in his life, places he has visited and went to
Frank rarely understands jokes and even gets stressed out if he thinks he will have to be around someone who will be telling jokes. He is ashamed and doesn’t want to feel stupid
His mind often goes blank in the middle of a conversation.
He has been on probation for fighting and not paying tickets and following court orders. He still has financial issues for forgetting to pay the fines for fighting in public, the automobile accident he caused in Poland and other legal issues.
Frank often forgets what town he is in
He is easily overwhelmed
Often Frank would get the jobs others didn’t want to do, like cutting down poison oak or other dangerous plants with thorns or that are poisonous. Several times he has had to go to the hospital or miss work so that he could recover. But the cost of the medical bills was much more than the money he had earned.
He has Gotten attacked and stung many times by yellow jackets, wasps, stinging ants, spiders, and even black-widows and scorpions from not using caution and wearing gloves and long sleeve shirts and other protective gear for this type of work.
He would just keep working anyway.
Does not understand some words for example Concussion vs. knocked out. Use to think a concussion meant getting your skull cracked
Didn’t know what tinnitus was.
Often people are offended because Frank doesn’t remember them or their name. this causes him more shame
It is very hard for Frank to learn new things and remember new things
Frank often is slow or does not recognize familiar things, people, and conversations.
Frank has trouble remembering words and has to pause often to think. His memory problem is frustrating to himself and others. These and many other issues cause Frank to further isolate himself.
He has a Delayed response to questions
Frank will lift heavy things. He will forget to use a lifting belt, not wear safety glasses, or a helmet. He will work without a particle mask, Ear protection, or eye protection.
He used to ride a motorcycle without a helmet, shirt, or shoes.
He forgets to put on his safety belt and has gotten tickets.
He forgot to put the screen in front of the fireplace and almost started a fire
He forgot to put the emergency brake on, and the car rolled down the street.
has trouble understanding things he is reading like road signs can’t’ think fast enough to understand
He will buy food and forget to take it with him. For example, McDonald's or the grocery store
He has lost four wedding rings since we got married
Several times he got locked out of the car and had to get help. He has Gotten locked out of the house several times and had to have the landlord come and open the door
Several times in Poland, Frank refused to go to the hospital due to sugar problems. After talking to my doctor, she said Frank could have died. This issue has been Verified by blood tests. Please see doctor’s letter from Poland
After being injured, he refused to go to the hospital when he needed sutures. He has several scars.
After leaving the Marines, Frank lost a lot of jobs. After going to the dump in the truck, Frank didn’t remember how to get back to the job.
He often forgot tools, was dangerous to work around, had conflicts at work, and got in arguments and physical altercations. He doesn’t like getting yelled at, and he missed a lot of work due to headaches, and lack of sleep.
He was dangerous to work around, and he reacted to slowly and didn’t understand directions. His hearing was also a problem, and his back was always an issue.
He was Almost killed on his motorcycle, he had swerved into the wrong lane and flew off a cliff on to boulders, his motorcycle wrecked. Frank had a broken leg, and he almost had his head torn off as he flew into a cement drainage pipe. See a picture of a similar pipe, and also a picture of Frank with Broken leg using crutches.
Another time he almost went off a 300ft cliff with a truck and trailer.
Work was impossible for Frank due to his memory, cognitive deficits, disagreements with fellow workers, and missing work do to headaches and lack of sleep. Frank was dangerous to himself and other workers
He thinks people think he’s stupid and boring and he feels responsible for his disabilities
PTSD and other emotional issues
Frank has had many issues with PTSD, TBI, Panic attacks, nightmares, headaches, backaches, aching hands, aching feet, a stiff, aching neck, and many other issues. He has also and still does use medicine for PTSD, insomnia, anxiety, panic attacks, nightmares, depression, suicidal thoughts and attempts, diarrhea, acid, constipation, and pain.
Please see list of current medications.
Frank suffers from several bad memories and nightmares, to include being attacked and struck, bitten, stabbed choked and clawed in the back, neck, and head, suffocating, harassment, and many others.
Below I will list some of his sleep disorders, his nightmares, and flashbacks, and other psychological problems that I have witnessed, read about, and am aware of.
Trauma and suicide
Besides the blow from the pickaxe to the head, Frank also has experienced several other traumatic events while he served in the marines; he also had many other traumatic events after his service in the marines that contribute to his PTSD.
His PTSD has been severe over the years and has caused him numerous problems since leaving the Marines. He has had to be hospitalized multiple times due to suicide and other issues with PTSD. He has panic attacks and has made several suicidal attempts, and he continues to have suicidal thoughts and has recently tried to commit suicide several times. I will list a few of these below.
After three years, I have finally gotten Frank to talk and admit to me that he has had issues with suicide attempts and other personal thoughts. Frank had finally admitted to me some of his suicidal thoughts and issues he has had starting while serving in the Marines.
In the past, he has had Images of hurting himself. Cutting himself with a chainsaw, swimming out to sea, driving off a cliff on his motorcycle. Shooting himself. Frank started having these types of thoughts while he was in the marines.
Initially, I observed him Swimming out into the ocean several times; I had a strange feeling he didn’t care if he lived or died. Now I go out with him, but I always take some type of floating devices in case we have a problem (which we have had several) and encourage him to stay closer to shore.
I am very concerned and have taken him to the doctor; I was also able to convince him to call the VA suicide hot-line and tell them about some of his suicidal thought issues, and attempts. I eventually had him put in the mental hospital and have him in therapy, but I feel he needs to go to the VA to get more help when we return to California.
Frank had almost shot himself around the time his wife Joyce Mac died.
About three or four years ago Frank tried to kill himself by swimming about eight kilometers out in the ocean in Cyprus, a rescue boat came out and got him and told him it was dangerous and illegal to swim so far out. He has done this about five times since I have known him.
He has threatened to want to kill himself several times.
Fortunately, we don’t have any guns in the home.
One time a Wind surfer warned him to go back in because the water was to rough and Frank was too far out in the ocean.
Another time a fishing boat came up to him and told him it was dangerous, and he was out to far.
After the Marines, Frank’s stepfather died in Frank’s arms while Frank was performing first aid and CPR.
After the Marines, During the time Frank’s wife, Joyce Mac, had terminal cancer, Frank and his wife were living with Frank’s mother and step-father. During this time Frank’s step-father was having strokes and heart issues. One day Frank’s stepfather collapsed; Frank came to help, and his step-father kept telling Frank he couldn’t breathe. He passed out, and Frank performed first-aid and CPR until the Ambulance came. Frank’s wife, mother, and aunt watched as his stepfather’s body arched, and he took his last gasping breath and died in Franks' arms. As always Frank felt guilty for not being able to save his life. Everyone told him he did his best, but, as usual, Frank always finds a reason to blame himself.
Nightmares, night terror, sleep disorders
Frank has had terrible nightmares starting while still serving in the Marines. After the trauma he experienced in the Marines, Frank started having nightmares, sleep terror, screaming, and other sleep-related problems to include stress related screaming and sleepwalking. While asleep he even punched another marine when he tried to wake and startled Frank. Frank also fell off a second story building and fell onto his back. There were many other such situations. Some of these situations and memories would cause such stress that he would vomit and sometimes secretly cry — for example, the man that died on the bus and other above examples.
Frank suffers from several nightmares, to include being attacked and struck, bitten, stabbed choked and clawed in the back, neck, and head, suffocating and many others. Below I will list his sleep disorders, his nightmares, and flashbacks, and other physiological problems.
Frank continues to have bad nightmares, night terror, and even vivid daydreams of getting attacked and having his head split open with a hatchet or machete.
He has dreams of getting buried alive in a coffin and suffocating as he frantically tries to get air, and no one can hear him yelling while he’s suffocating to death.
He has bad dreams about drowning on a sinking ship or floating container or sinking car. Being trapped and sinking in the ocean in a sea cargo container that is starting to sink.
He has had dreams about being trapped in a floating helicopter as it sinks.
He has nightmares about Bloody and Horribly injured people that have been beaten, stabbed, have been in horrible accidents often dying or drowning and calling for help, but Frank can’t get to them and is unable to help them.
I know that I am a source of his nightmares as well due to my health issues and the car accident.
He is always jolting throughout the night, screaming, sweating, talking, and suddenly jumping out of bed with bad dreams in a panic. Sometimes he doesn’t know where he is. He always seems to be in battles and danger when he is sleeping. He is Constantly making verbal noises of stress, tossing and turning. Talking, mumbling, screaming, and even jumping out of bed, often waking the whole family and the Nabors.
Frank often dreads the thought of going to bed. Often, he gets up and walks the neighborhood or sits in the living room with the door open. He used to leave the television on all night to avoid the nightmares, but we got rid of it.
He sometimes has dreams of getting electrocuted.
Frank constantly wakes up and never seems to be in a deep sleep. He startles if awoken from a deep sleep. He also startles at any strange noise or smell. He gets restless and starts jolting and getting Jumpy when he tries to sleep.
He has bad dreams about getting cornered and stabbed all over the back of the head and neck with a knife, machete, or stabbed with a pipe
He has dreams about a big dog or grizzly bear attacking him from behind and ripping his neck and the back of his head with their teeth, getting bitten all over the head, ears, back, and tearing at his neck and he is unable to escape.
He dreams of getting hit in the head and his brains leaking next to his head.
He has bad dreams about getting made fun of, getting cornered and sometimes assaulted beaten or attacked with a knife or other weapons.
He often wakes up in a frantic state.
He is often jolting throughout the night, screaming, sweating, talking, and suddenly jumping out of bed with bad dreams. His Jolting keeps us both awake at night.
He wakes constantly and can’t go back to sleep. He averages about 3-4 hours of sleep a night. Some days he only gets an hour or two of sleep and other times he will be so exhausted he will sleep 6 hours. When it gets bad, he will go 3-4 days without sleep and has had to go to the VA mental hospital.
His nightmares and bad memories persist to the present time.
He has frequent insomnia.
He has frequent upsetting memories that cause increased jumpiness causing him to have trouble falling to sleep. He always has trouble relaxing to sleep.
Frank has dreams of kids in a car sinking into a lake and Frank was unable to save them.
He has bad dreams about suffocating in the gas chamber, a sinking sea cargo container, and trying to swim back to shore panicking knowing he is going to drown.
He still has many bad dreams about the traumatic events that happened in the Marines and after the marines.
Just recently, while at the psychiatric hospital in Cyprus he almost struck his roommate with a blow that would have sent the man to the hospital. The man sat on his bed in the middle of the night startling Frank.
Frank hates enclosed spaces and avoids using elevators. Where I lived in Poland, we have an elevator. Frank would always use the stairs. Even when we had groceries, Frank would carry them up the stairs. Several times I tried to encourage him to join me on the elevator, but he always claimed he needed the exercise. But one day I was able to convince him to use the elevator. After that, I was sometimes able to convince him to use it several more times when we had groceries, even though I could tell he didn’t like it. One day Frank and I got trapped in the elevator for around an hour, Frank became very stressed and was drenched in sweat. Frank had many nightmares and other sleep issues after this. Even though it was winter he slept out on the porch, he even left and slept at the park again several times. He never got on that elevator again
Ever since I have known Frank, he never seems to get a good night sleep. Frank jumps out of bed in the middle of the knight sweating and in a panic screaming. We have had to change the sheets, due to sweating. He has even urinated and soiled the sheets in his sleep.
Frank has many issues with claustrophobia. To this day, Frank doesn’t like to feel as if he is trapped or closed in, even in the dead of winter. While we were living in Poland, Frank insisted that the window stay open all night. Frank often slept outside on the patio several times, even when it was snowing. The patio has a roof but has no window and is very cold. Frank has even slept in the park, which is dangerous because of the gangs, drugs, and drinking. Often the feeling of being trapped causes Frank to panic. He has a Morbid fear of suffocating to death and seeing others suffocate or drown. He often leaves home when I am sleeping, which scares me because we are so close to the ocean and all his other issues. We have gotten in several arguments due to some of these issues.
Frank has nightmares and bad memories to this day concerning many of these ordeals. Often Frank will get claustrophobia and take walks in the middle of the night. Frank avoids crowds, hates shopping, and going out to eat, especially in noisy, crowded restaurants.
When we are shopping, when he feels Claustrophobic, he will leave a store immediately if feeling crowded; this can happen on the bus or any crowded environment.
he had a panic attack in the MRI machine at the Palo Alto VA. Frank panicked and tore his way out of the machine.
He had to be put in restraints several time due to panic.
On another occasion, while at the VA Mental health hospital at Palo Alto, Frank got claustrophobic, panicked, kicked down a heavy steel security door, hurtled himself over the high security fence.
This type of thing has happened several times. On another occasion, it took ten security guards and medical staff to contain him after another panic attack at mental health.
Frank has hurt himself and others in his steep. He has hit and kicked the wall, bed, and other furniture. Frank has also injured me several time, and he had injured his former wife, oy Mac, as well as others.
Frank must take lorazepam when we are in a situation causing him to feel Claustrophobic. For example. He must take lorazepam for any flights or long bus or train rides, especially on the underground subway which he will avoid if possible and take another form of transportation. Frank has had panic issues on the plane, while in the car, the bus, while shopping, the subway, in crowds, and other situations. He will get out of the car right on the freeway.
During the day he doesn’t leave home much. He avoids crowds. Frank is mostly a loner. He Doesn’t like parties, crowds, traffic, confusion, and loud noises.
He almost had security called with a panic episode on the plane. He will avoid crowds and take the long way around. Often, he refuses to leave the house for weeks at a time.
When he thinks about suffocating, almost drowning, dealing with crowds, and social situations, he starts to sweat and can panic or get angry.
Frank has vivid memories and will jump or startle because they are so real. He is embarrassed when this happens in front of people. This causes him to isolate himself even more.
My son works in construction, and while digging a ditch, the sides caved in killing his childhood friend due to suffocation. (he was a good friend of our family). Our family was very upset, and what happened also caused more issues with Frank PTSD.
Daytime emotional problems, anxiety, panic, and stress
He is often restless, twitching, nervous, jolting, and getting startled.
Also, during the day, he often jumps and is startled by bad memories, getting surprised from behind, and laud noises.
He is often twitching and jolting. He has constant unwanted and repeated memories of many of these stressful events.
He doesn’t like getting surprised, having people coming up behind him, sudden movements, and laud noises.
He seems to be plagued day and night with the memories and traumas of his past traumatic events. During the day he has vivid memories, almost like it was real causing him to startle.
My son, often startles Frank when he knocks on the door loud, slams the door, or comes up behind him. Frank had almost hit my son and I when startled and caught off guard. Sometimes it causes an angry reaction after the initial shock. Frank feels shame and is embarrassed when this happens in front of people. He doesn’t want to be seen by others when this happens. Often Frank will further isolate himself.
Now Frank has the Additional stress due to my Hepatitis C, spinal injury and other medical issues. He also feels guilty for causing the accident.
Presently, Frank is also frustrated because we are having a hard time trying to get all the complicated paperwork done for immigration, the VA, CHAMPVA, and trying to figure out where to live.
Frank has cognitive deficits, and we are both hearing impaired and have a hard time communicating with others, especially trying to talk in English on the phone concerning these issues.
We have been trying to gather documents, I have been trying to fill out forms, and trying to get our US visa’s, and deal with VA and medical issues for around two years now
Frank startles easily. There are very loud Motorcycles that go by the house several times a day; the noise sends Frank out of his chair. Clanking dishes, dropping things, yelling, and confusion cause him to startle and stress him out. Often this causes him to become angered
Frank always has the feeling of getting hit in the head with an ax when he is around digging men. It makes him flinch and shiver. He doesn’t like large or sharp knives lifted or used around him, even in the kitchen.
Besides the assaults and fights Frank had in the Marines, Frank was constantly in fights when he first got out of the marines.
While on leave from his duty station in Hawaii, his Mother and sister witnessed a fight with some gang members that attacked Frank with a knife, Hammer, and a cue-stick; the police came with riot gear, and two men had to go to the hospital. Another time when Frank was on leave, he got in a fight with a man who had just gotten out of prison and was picking on Frank’s younger cousin, a fight started, and Frank beat the man pretty bad. Frank always seems to defend the underdog.
Frank has been arrested several times for these types of issues.
More concerning Frank’s poor judgement
He got put in jail for fighting a bunch of bouncers in San Luis Obispo. He has many times forgotten to pay traffic tickets and pay bills.
Frank would often volunteer to do dangerous jobs and take very risky chances.
He is always involved in Self-destructive or reckless behavior, often what I would consider suicidal.
He Got in a fight with a bunch of bikers, another time with a bunch of loggers. A couple of months before these same loggers had killed another man in a fight.
He has been in many serious fights while in the marines and after leaving the marines. Frank doesn’t seem to use proper judgement. He won’t back down, even if the odds are against him. He has had guns pulled on him; he has been shot at, had knives pulled on him and many other weapons. He got a gun pulled on him several times after arguments.
One day in Poland, Frank hit a guy that showed aggression towards me. He hit the guy three times before the guy could throw a punch at me. He is very protective. He said he didn’t think about hitting the guy, he saw the danger and just reacted.
Frank threatened two men at the VA mental hospital in Palo Alto because they had been threatening a nurse. This almost led to a fight. He got put in jail for fighting in San Louis Obispo about 2011; he still owes for the fine. There are many other such situations.
Stress fear and bad memories
He has constant panic and depression. He is exhausted all the time. He has daily panic attacks, even in the middle of the night, he wakes in a sweaty panic.
Frank hates bullies, getting yelled at, getting threatened, or any form of aggression.
He feels threatened when an object is lifted by others like a knife or digging tool. He Gets a shiver when he sees a knife lifted, workers digging a trench, or going into a tunnel; he hates taking the subway and would rather take the bus, train, or a taxi. He avoids elevators, crowded and enclosed rooms. He Must be close to the exit or open window with his back to the wall. He is always Leary around knives, even when my son or I lift a knife in the kitchen. Sometimes he will take the knife away if he feels it is a dangerous one. He doesn’t like getting surprised or having someone come up behind him.
Frank has performed CPR on people who did not survive, starting in the Marines with the man on the bus. Also, including his father-in-law, who died in his arms, and others.
He feels guilty for their deaths, His wife, Joyce Mac’s death and many others.
Frank is often irritable, frustrated, and has anger issues.
Frank gets very stressed with any commotion or a change of plans.
He starts pacing before appointments, even unimportant appointments such as going to the store to buy milk and eggs.
Frank is currently very stressed and worried about my health problems, for example, I have Hepatitis C, and I need a spinal operation due to our car accident in Poland. Frank feels a lot of guilt because it was his fault I was injured
Frank has constant worrying and anxiety and is always overreacting even with little things.
He is always tense, on edge, and can’t ever seem to relax.
He is constantly pacing.
He doesn’t allow anyone to touch his neck. While in bed, he always knows were my hands are. He wakes at every sound or smell. Every time the man next door smokes, Frank wakes up.
He almost always refuses to talk about any of these things. Frank shuts down when asked about his PTSD or Brain damage. He does not like to admit he has TBI, PTSD, night terror, panic attacks, has flashbacks, has anger issues, has been in the mental hospital, urinating or defecating while sleeping. Suicidal thoughts or actions. Although, I have had some success, and have been able to encourage him recently to get help.
He is often sad, I see him crying, but he will not admit it.
Frank is always aware of his surroundings and on guard.
Frank is constantly biting his fingernails, picking at himself, and biting the inside of his mouth, to the point of bleeding. He is also constantly itching.
He has some obsessive behavior such as overeating, undereating, and overspending.
Frank often blames himself for the death of others.
When frustrated, many times, Frank has Punched himself in the head and stomach hit the wall and hurt himself in other ways.
He has Threatened to kill himself an gets angry and will throw and destroy things. Frank has angry outbursts and has destroyed his computer, iPad, cell phone lamp, coffee, food plates, cup, punched the wall, and other things. This has often happened.
Frank has a hard time saying I love you or giving and receiving hugs.
Frank will start to worry about being late hours before an appointment.
He has a lack of trust, and he is Suspicious. He has anger issues, relationship issues, Irritability and outbursts of anger. Frank gets irritable, frustrated and angry.
Suicidal thoughts and attempts
He has also made threats of committing suicide and has tried several times, including here in Cyprus. I don’t trust him to be left alone or go out alone.
Frank has recently started allowing me to ask him more questions about his feelings.
Frank has many unwanted Images of hurting himself, for example, cutting himself with a chainsaw, swimming out to sea and never coming back, cutting the safety rope while 100 ft up in a tree, driving off a cliff. Shooting himself in the head, overdosing on his medications and getting killed doing dangerous things. Frank has often had these types of thoughts. Some of these thoughts have gotten very close to reality.
I must always keep an eye on him, and I don’t leave him home alone because of being dangerous to himself and the rest of the family. I will state some examples later. He has made threats to harm or kill himself several times and stating that he wished he was dead.
Not only do I worry about Frank getting hurt, but Frank could hurt or kill someone. The episode in California when Frank got in a fight with the bouncers) he was arrested and put in jail, he still owes money. He beat up and injured several bouncers.
Frank went through a lot of horrors with his wife Joyce who died of cancer. He still feels guilty
Frank is embarrassed when he jerks due to flashbacks.
The harassment, while he was in the marines, is a subject he hates talking about.
Frank never forgets the sound of teargas grenades and startles when he hears some fireworks or flairs when he was helping refugees the used tear gas. The whole issue helping the refugees caused him a lot of stress.
He used to keep a knife and shotgun by his bedside
On many occasions, he would do dangerous things and take risks, I believe, hoping he would die accidently.
Frank always has the feeling of getting hit in the head with an ax when he is around digging men. It makes him flinch and shiver. He also had bad dreams of similar things.
There were many other fights and getting jumped off base by gangs because of the dislike of marines.
After Frank’s wife, Joyce Mac died, Frank has had some trouble with alcohol abuse, but this is not a typical pattern.
Frank Thinks people think he’s stupid and boring and feels responsible for his disabilities.
About three or four years ago Frank tried to kill himself by swimming about eight kilometers out in the ocean, and he got a police warning. Frank has swum way out and had issues about five times since I have known him. Frank has threatened to want to kill himself several times. One time a Windsurfer warned Frank to go back in because the water was too rough, and Frank was too far out in the ocean. This was about one year ago when we were camping. Another time a fishing boat came up to Frank and told him it was dangerous, and he was out to far. This also was about one year ago when we were camping.
Frank suffers from several bad memories and nightmares. Frank has had many issues with PTSD, TBI, Panic attacks, nightmares, and stress; Frank suffers from depression, anger issues, guilt, insomnia, stress, night terror, and anxiety.
Frank has very few hobbies or interests except the cat, the bird, and solitaire. Sometimes in the evening, we go to the beach if no one else is there and look for shells. We live in the country two blocks from the ocean. He sometimes likes to work in the garden. Frank will sometimes help work on a puzzle once and a while. Usually, he needs to be encouraged to do things.
While in the Marines, Frank was an expert shot. When he first joined the Marines. He was meritoriously promoted, was a high achiever, went to field radio school, and he was an excellent chess player. Frank was the highest scoring rifle shot in his company. In boot camp, Frank was even given a meritorious promotion for his achievements. (See the picture of Frank holding the flag in boot camp, also see sergeant B’s letter) Frank was an expert swimmer, got perfect physical fitness scores, and was an exceptional athlete and runner; he even ran in several marathons representing the marines. He went to jeep school, went to and was certified in first aid. He also went to biological warfare classes, he had a secret clearance and even passed the Marine Recon test.
Before and after serving in the Marines
In the beginning, Frank was a capable, intelligent high achiever with a lot of potential; and in the end, he was unable to talk well, didn’t want to be in the Marines any longer. His score on the rifle range dropped to the lowest category. He declined in all areas of his performance. In late 1979 or early 1980, Frank went on leave. His family had been noticing Frank had many problems and was not the same person anymore. Frank didn’t want to return to Hawaii due to harassment; he forgot how to read music, forgot all his Russian and most of his Spanish, and couldn’t even catch a baseball or a football anymore. He had lost his interest in chess. He was always stressed out, depressed, getting in arguments and fights, and having many other problems and difficulties. Frank was not the same person that he was when he joined the Marines. His uncle took him to the congressman’s office, and Frank ended up being transferred to a marine base, with his brother, in California.
There is so much more to say, but this should give you the idea