AMaya

2 months ago the VA awarded a dependent apportionment claim that I’d previously filed in 2017 for my daughter. The VA then told her Father(in prison for aggravated assault of his last girlfriend and child) the details of the claim and he has begun to call and write angry letters to me weekly telling me I’m a bad parent, demanding proof of what I’m spending the benefit money on, and telling me I need to respect him because he made the decision to choose to give me the apportionment for our daughter and if I can’t show him what I’m doing with the money he will appoint someone to be in charge of it. This all stemmed from him immediately calling to request a large sum of money from the award and me deciding to put it in an account for our daughter to save. Besides feeling harassed, I’m confused about the entire thing. I filed the apportionment application. The VA made the decision to ensure he was financially contributing to raising our daughter(of which he has only contributed less than 2 year of her 15 years alive). Was it his choice to allow the VA to send a monthly benefit payment and can he end that simply because 1)I did not send him the large sum of money he requested and 2) because I’m not giving him proof of what is done with the money? Being harassed by this person From prison who spent years physically abusing me is causing extra stress that I’d like to end, but not sure my options and I feel our daughter’s needs deserve to be contributed towards by him. thank you for any words of wisdom on this. I truly appreciate it.