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Hi, I am conservator/fiduciary for my son. He is 100% due to a mental illness diagnosed 1 month after discharge (not PTSD). He is not rated permanant however...the notification state because his condition could improve...which is not true (wonder if I should argue that)...as long as he takes his meds he should be ok but off meds he is not. Being a fiduciary is a nightmare for me and him. I have to follow strict guidelines and budget. If I do not I risk fraud. Nothing can be in his name. I have to complete a detailed accounting of where every penny goes. As I said, when he takes his meds he's good and wants a normal life. Wants to buy a car in his own name and not have his Mother do it for him. He is capable of managing his money. My fear is that if we try and get his competancy changedmhis rating may be reduced (per his psych Doctor at the VA). He is miserable with me controlling his money but which is worse? loose medical benefits and money? But if they control where the money is spent whats the difference? My son is 32 and I want him to have a life. anyone have any suggestions?

Hi, I am conservator/fiduciary for my son. He is 100% due to a mental illness diagnosed 1 month after discharge (not PTSD). He is not rated permanant however...the notification state because his condition could improve...which is not true (wonder if I should argue that)...as long as he takes his meds he should be ok but off meds he is not. Being a fiduciary is a nightmare for me and him. I have to follow strict guidelines and budget. If I do not I risk fraud. Nothing can be in his name. I have to complete a detailed accounting of where every penny goes. As I said, when he takes his meds he's good and wants a normal life. Wants to buy a car in his own name and not have his Mother do it for him. He is capable of managing his money. My fear is that if we try and get his competancy changedmhis rating may be reduced (per his psych Doctor at the VA). He is miserable with me controlling his money but which is worse? loose medical benefits and money? But if they control where the money is spent whats the difference? My son is 32 and I want him to have a life. anyone have any suggestions?