Excellent advice, I aprecciate it greatly... particularly Carlie and hulamatt, but all very good input.
Basically as I understand it now I just need to take my disability rating nottice into the VA, and then I can get help... they shouldnt be able to run me around in circles again. (last time I went there I got sent all over the place before they finnally told me that line of needing to get my DD-214 changed first, I was running around at the VA hospital for about 3-4 HOURS)
Hulamatt, for me the process was this... got discharged april 28th 2005, due to lack of support I didnt actually get any successfull progress on getting any help until roughly october or november of 2009. I followed the advice I was getting from a few veterans I ran into here and there who reccomended that I either get a VFW or DAV rep to assist me. So I went to the VFW and the rep there had me fill out some paperwork and tried to get me into some counseling quickly which we kept getting blocked on because of various excuses. I had my VFW rep send in the paperwork and not too long afterwards (2 weeks to a month) later I got a letter back asking if I had any further evidence, I did not have any evidence to provide to them that they did not already have so basically I just submitted to them a written statement to explain things as best I could, maybe it helped maybe it didnt...
then I got stuck into the waiting period for a decision... started getting letters from them about each month saying they were still working on my case. Honestly I was loosing all hope and starting to go entirely off the mental deep end when I finnally got a letter back telling me I am now 100% Service Connected Disabled. I got it on my first attempt that I managed to push far enough for them to actually consider it. Ofcourse prior to getting a VFW rep to assist me I could not get any help from anywhere, the VA offices would just tell me they couldnt help me and basically show me the door... or worse yet they would have me wait out in their waiting area, and ignore me for hours until I'd have to give up.
Two major parts of their consideration were that 1) It was documented that I was perfectly sane going into the service. 2) I was red flagged as being unstable mentally and tried to get help while I was in the service. 3) They documented all of my psych sessions while I was in the service... as well as some other incidents that occured. 4) while they were considering my case, they gave me an appointment to be evaluated by a 3rd party at no expense to me... I did so and the person who did the evaluation's basic reaction was that my condition was severe and growing worse, reccomending that I get help while I am still willing to do so and capable of admitting that I need it.
As for my work, I am quitting it.. for one thing it has not nothing but greatly worsen my mental condition. I just now need to decide how to do so, wether to give them two weeks nottice or to simply quit on the spot, citing that I am now a 100% disabled veteran.