mrs rockman (widow of vet)

Carlie, I am finally getting arounnd to do the 21-0847. I do have just thing to ask, On #13-remarks, what do I put there? I do not have to list all that I want to do with this substitution, or do I just simply state that I want to substitte myself for David? As soon as I get back, I will post what they had in my DIC ratings, to see if I should file a NOD. If, so I need to mail it off by tomorrow to meet the 03/01/13 deadline. The other NOD I need to do is ok for now. Thanks, Celia

CONGRATULATIONS Sparkle, well deserved! I am very excited for you! We sometimes had Rockman's money in the bank before we even received the letter, so keep a look out in your bank account. On my DIC, the money showed up in my accounnt one morning and when the mail came that same day, there was the letter. You just never know which will come first. The main thing is that the MONEY IS COMING!! Celia, Mrs. R

Thank you for your reply. I thought, at one time, they were saying, it would be around the first of this year. You never know when you may hit a snag and throw things off some. I will keep watching for the SVR show and the news. Thank you again, Celia, Mrs. R

rdawg, I am very happy for you and Congratulations!! Each % step is a good step in the right direction-UP!! Celia

In 1970, Rockman spent his 21st birthday in Vietnam. Celia

Agreed...

Yes, I can see your point. I guess it really depends on the amount of the premiums and are there any dentist near you that are in the plan. When you have a very good dentist, you really hate to switch if you can help it.

Thanks. I did not hold out too much hope and that is why I went on a scheduled my dental work for tomorrow. Usually when you have dental or vision premiums, the premiun cost may or may not be worth the benefits that it pays. Rockman never did take either one of these out when he worked at the prison ( and I made sure I said "worked", not a "guest" there). We put aside so much each month just in an insurance fund to help pay for those things when or if they came up. I will look up the site anyways. Celia

What a remarkable person, Ed Freeman! You were the "only" way those veterans had a chance of getting out and getting the medical attention they needed. My hat is off to you! Ed, God is taking care of you now! Celia

So, where do they think the widows go when their beloved dies?... I could tell VA where they should go..Oh! that would be sooo cruel..ah!, so I am cruel and it sure does feel good!! David told me a long time ago that if he died, he wanted me to remarry one day... I just always laughed and said that I had "the best", why would I want anyone "less". I cannot ever forsee remarrying or falling in love again, but I know you should never say never. I am glad that you are happy, for love does make one feel so good! I am glad you are at peace with it and knowing your husband would have approved, just makes everything better! I am just now seeing this post. I happened to look on My Content and found all sorts of replys-oops! Celia

That is great. I did not know B& B did that kind of thing. David had all his oxygen and supplies from B & B. We live 90 miles from Memphis and we had to drive in and it was so very hard on him to make that trip. They really should have brought it out to him. I am so glad that you do not have to make the trip. Let us know how it is all working out for you. Celia

I surely will. Right now I do not know if we will be paying a monthly premium or just a co-pay. I hate to go on Monday, but I really do not have a choice. Then it will be..one penney..two penney..no more pennies when I start paying the dentist! I do not know if they will be reimbursing us or not-we will see-that is if we ever see the program up and running. Oh well. like David always said "it is what it it is". Celia

Just a morning update.. what do you kinow..the AO Review newsletter just came in my mail-how oddly strange. Now that adds up to 3 in total! celia

Chuck75, just like you said..if veterans are well informed then they will know they can file certain types of claims and then the "almighty??" VA may have to compensate them for those claims. They are basically hoping that the veteran just goes away and just dies. Then this will save them heap steep amounnt of moolah! Little do they know. we are not giving up with what is due to all of us!! I think David got maybe two issues in all, but it sure looks "fishy" that he got no more issues after the first claim was filed.. Celia, mrs. R

Kudos to me- I got it working.

Carlie, Yes, you are right. The car was his way of making sure that I did not break down on the road...his protection for me still lives on.. each day that I get into the car and go somewhere. I still look over at the passenger's seat, pat it, and say "David, I love you, sweetie pie". Then after I say that, I can drive. Let me tell you something. Just last night I was in the next town (about 15 miles or so) and I was on my way to West TN Hospice to hear a very good speaker on grief. On the way to town, I had this very strange and uneasy feeling come over me and thought then to turn around, but I wanted so badly to go hear the guy. It was on "Moving along after a Loss". My low tire pressure light came on just as I was in town. Of course you know you cannot find many places to check your air and it was raining cats and dogs ( and they were Big cats & Big dogs). I pulled over and had this bad feeling again about going on. I turned around and headed back home and wanted to get to the Ford dealership before they closed. About 3 miles down the road, I felt more uneasy. I decided to pull in to Walmart and have them check the pressure for me. I was already "ready for them" with "no, I do not want to buy any tires, just air me up for I am on my way to my dealership". I was low and they aired me up, no chrage and no asking for me to buy a tire. I went by my dealershiip and talked to them. They said to show up and 7:45, which I did. I was going to make an appointment for my oil change for next week, but they went on and did it all for me. They didn't find a nail or anything, but told me to watch it. They even told me after the rebates, I was paying less. They gave me a discount which was so nice of them. They all knew David and was so patient with him when we shopped for our car. He could be a real "pistol" or a real PITA, but he knew what he was willing to pay and he stuck to it. You go David!! After we bought the car, we got in the mail from our Ford dealer to come in and they would give us so much on a trade in. Bear in mind, they already had the trade in when we got our Foocus. So, Rockman went in there with the letter in hand and asked for that money. Surely, he said, that if you send me the letter, you will honor me with the cash. You can tell what the ending of this story is. By the way, the guys just got through getting my insulation in my attic. For the first time in 17 years, the temperature is actually a litle more than what I set it for. The guy even insulated some in my bath closet where the hot water tank is. He also got up on a 8' ladder and checked an old return air vent to see if had been blocked off and then asked for a rag and cleaned the entire vent cover. You see, my ceiling is 11' high. I am soooo sorry that I kept rambling on. I just started typing and I kinda got carried away. I promise I will close now and I am sending a big hug back your way. Thanks for all of your supporrt. Celia

Carlie, thanks. I had always wondered how to do it and now I do. I knew that it was something simple. Now watch me not know what I want to put there now I know how. Future reference point. Have a great day! Celia

I see that so many members have quotes or their scd ratings below their postings and I would like to know how you can add that to your posting. Thanking you in advance, Celia, Mrs. R

This just makes me want to SCREAM- such an injustice!!

Carlie- You are always very good in helping people think about spending their money wisely and this is such a good thing!! The only thing I owe right now is my car. Now, after Monday, I will owe a sizable amount for my bridge work. I have it set up for 24 months same as cash.Too bad Champva has not added the dental yet. I do not believe in paying interest unless I absolutely have no choice (ie a house). I am so thankful that I can see the light on the rainbow on becoming debt free!! I am very careful to make sure I have monies tucked back and do not go into it for just plain "I feel like spending some cash today" days. If it is not in my checking account, then I do not need it. I use the envelope system and for example I put XX amount of $'s in an envelope each month for my utilities (and all other normal monthly expenditures). If my utillities are way less than the allloted amount, then I carry it over to the next month. This way if I get a real big utility bill one month, then it is there waiting for me. When I happen to accumulate plenty of reserve, then I will I take out some and "treat myself" to something that I would not ordinarily buy myself. You need to treat yourself from time to time just to know you can and to feel good.. no, feel great!! I know David is smiling. I know he would want me to be able to get through this difficult time and this helps me face each day. It is so hard and no one really understands what you are going through. People are afraid to talk to you, for they do not know what to say, so they just say NOTHING! You know, I can get through this and I am a SURVIVOR!!! Thank you Carlie for all the work that you do here and all of the research and help you bring to the table. God Bless you, Carlie! Celia

Has anyone heard anymore about the if or when the dental informaton will be mailed out? I called Champva about three weeks ago and the bids were still out. They said that it woud be shortly. I could really use it. I have major dental work on Monday, so I guess I will have to self pay. Celia

Flatbroke, I am so sorry to hear that you have IPF and I wish you the best on all fronts. First click on the above link from SP4RVN1971. Then go to the Publications and Reports at the left. Under Newsletters- click on Latest Issue (winter 2012). It has it listed under Other Features. You can then go to the top and download the full issue. It does have they are looking at COPD listed. I wonder if they look at COPD if then they would ever go a little further and look at IPF. They show the research study on the ACC Group, but I would think that if you were heavily exposed to AO, it would be the same. At least maybe it is a start. Who can ever tell with VA?!? VA kept asking Rockman if he was exposed to all sorts of chemicals, but when he said AO...Oh no, that cannot be the cause. I say BULL!!! I hope that this a help to you and that I have not steered you in the wrong direction. What meds do they have you on and let me know how you are doing. Celia, Mrs. R

Rockman would always say that he died 40 years ago and this is so true of so many Veterans!! Celia

Kelly, I am still floating and am so greatful for all of this! I have been wondering how your season had been going, but just never did get around to checking in on you. I know Rockman would have been honored with this! Misty (aka Mitty Girl or Misty Bisty) says woof woof to Chata. Misty is my 13 year old border collie and has been so conforting to me. When David was not feeling well, Misty would not leave his side. Dogs realy sense how you are doing, whether it be physicaly or emotionally. They are the best medicine you can get. When David passed away, Misty would lay by the bedroom door waiting on him to come out. She just did not know what to think about it and grieved so much for him. Then last month, I had to put down Lady Bugs, my Shih Tzu of 15 years. That was hard, but it was the most humane thing to do. Now then, Misty still looks for Lady Bugs. Misty would not go for walks without Ladybugs. I tell Misty that it is she and I now and I will take care of her. She knowS when I am sad and just gives me kisses. I did get my heat fixed and that is a good thing. Have a good day! Celia

John, thank you and yes such a relief comes over you when everything is finally finalized! I thought once I was awarded my DIC that I would want to be through with research here on Hadit, but you know it just does not work that way. It is addictive in that the more you learn, the more you want to learn. I feel like I owe it to David to keep on researching and I do not get tired of it. I know I could not have done all this without HADIT!! A big thank you! Celia