Hello--this is my first post on this board so I apologize up front if this has been covered already.
My mother is the advanced stages of Alzheimer's and is currently living in an assisted-living facility for dementia. My mother has few financial resources and at cost of over $4K a month to live in a safe, secure care facility, we need all the assistance we can get. She is a widow of 5 years and my father was a USN vet who served during the Korean War. 17 months ago I applied for VA benefits just to end up in a seemingly endless VA nightmare of errors and claim denials. Exasperated, I finally turned to my Congressional rep in my district here in Palm Springs, CA.
Finally this past, Friday I received a notice that she will be awarded the A&A benefit retroactive to the date we applied, that's the good news, the not so good news is that the VA is declaring her incompetent (which she is) and will be seeking a financial fiduciary. The letter we recieved is requesting her repy to contest their determination of incompetency. She is most definitely incompetent and has been for quite sometime--fortunately we had put legal documents in place for Power of Attny for her as myself as her POA, but as is well known, the VA stupidly doesn't recognize civilian POAs.
I am unsure how to respond to this letter--should we state something to the affect that we will accept the VA's incompetency declaration to expedite the claims processing? We have not received an awards letter yet BTW.
Also how is the financial fiduciary assigned? Can it be a family member like myself? i have a fear that the VA will assigne fiduciary to a thrid-aprty that will suck up all the assets--how can this be avoided? Should I put in the reply that my mother would like her caregiver son (me) to be the fiduciary as I am already handeling all f her affairs?
Thank you so much in advance for your kind assistance and Happy Mother's Day!
Kind regards,
Eric