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Good work Tbird! Worth reading again! ~Wings

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Wings:

We have had some interment problems with old members who like to sneak in and cause dissension. You can probably remember a few. Hadit is to big to let malcontents disrupt the Board.

If Members can adhere to the rules there is no problem. Even if a person has PTSD they have to learn how to fight nice. I know it was not easy for me but if I could learn than so can others :unsure:

I am so glad that you are back.

As Kim used to tell us Restraint of Tongue and Pen. If you disagree with someone its a lot better to do so politely and with facts.

No I am not addressing you as much as I am the Board.

Remember when the Board would get shut down for days.

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I re-read the Board's Terms and Rules and I shall continue to do my best to stay within these guidelines.

Thanks for allowing me the opportunity to be a member of such a fine group of veterans, their wives and husbands.

Always,

Josephine

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Tbird, thanks for the reminder on Hadit rules and guidelines, helps to keep us on the same page of music! Alto here, cg

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Personally I kinda LIKE to argue a point, but... I have found through very hard experience that if you are angered by what someone posts, its best to take a breather before you reply...

Often people disagree with my views, and I with theirs, all I asdk is that they show me where I am wrong based on CFR 38, M21-1 and VACA law. I am wrong ALL the time. You cannot help but be since these regulations cover thousands of typed pages. The elders here all know the common answers, and they have VERY good advise on how to attack certain claims, each with their own specialty.... but no one knows it all.

Further while I personally understand the ... well rage I guess that some feel toward the VA system, we all have to understand that it is what is at fault. Not the people, not the doctors, the system. Almost ALL of us agree that the system is at best ponderous and slow. Often the raters are under-trained, or inexperienced... again this serves only to worsen the problem. Yet, I have seen amazingly wonderful people within the VA system. I count many of the as my friends.

In the end we are all here to help someone through this mess. Let me attach an email I received yesterday...

THIS IS BIG !!!!! I AM FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE I HAVE BEEN BACK FROM THE WAR GOING TO BE ABLE TO BEGIN TO FEEL LIKE A NORMAL PERSON SOMEWHAT.TO BE ABLE TO PAY MY BILLS ON TIME, PAY DOWN DEBTS,...BREATHE EASIER!!!!!!! i HAVE NOT DATED ANYONE SINCE iVE BEEN BACK,.... FOR A NUMBER OF REASONS ,.... BUT ONE BIG ONE WAQS THAT ,.... i HAD NOTHING TO OFFER THEM. i MEAN,... i COULDNT EVEN TAKE THEM TO A MEAL,.... PAY FOR A DATE. I HAVE BEEN SO DAMN LONELY. NOW ,.... I CAN TAKE SOMEONE OUT AND BE ABLE TO PAY FOR IT.I KNOW THIS ALL SOUNDS TRIVIAL,.... BUT IT IS MISERABLE BEING LONELY,..... WHEN YOU HAVE LITTLE TO OFFER SOMEONE. I DONT MEAN THAT I FELT THAT I HAD TO HAVE ALOT OF MONEY TO BE WORTHY OF SOMEONE. BUT,.... A MAN DOES NEED TO BE ABLE TO SHOW SOME STABILITY,ECT, ECT.

ANYWAY BOB,.... YES OF COURSE I WILL MAKE A DONATION TO SAVE THE CHILDREN. I AM SO VERY HAPPY AND GRATEFUL TO YOU . AND IT SADDENS ME TO HEAR OF YOUR ILLNESS.BOB,.... IF YOU THINK OF SOMETHING NEEDING DONE THAT YOU THINK I CAN DO OR HELP YOU DO,.... PLEASE!!!!!! LET ME KNOW.

BOB,....I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW HOW VERY PROUD OF YOU I AM, FOR ALL OF US THAT YOU HAVE TOOK UNDER YOUR WINGS AND HELPED US TO FLY ONCE AGAIN. AND SOON,.... VERY SOON,.....I WILL BE ABLE TO SOAR

This was from a vet who I had been working with since prior to his discharge. He just received his 100% rating, and obviously is happy. He asked me what he could do to repay me and I said if he must make a small donation to save the children.

IN the end I am not here to debate, argue or anything else even though I like to sometimes... I am here for guys and girls like John, and his family. A Captain in the Army discharged with a 20% severance.... after injury in Iraq.

That's what Hadit is about. And ANYONE who thinks they might come in and hinder that through silly childish bull needs to think again. This is too important, to both the veteran and us... because with cases like John's I reaffirm the whole reason I started veteran advocacy.

So, it's just too important. If some idiot wants to come in and harass someone like Berta (who by the way is one of the smartest most knowlegeable people I have ever met on case law)... well it's just a click of a button for them to go away. I have watched people attack others saying they were pro-VA, etc. That's bull. There is just no point in getting all fired up at them. Instead, with each claim I help win, I prove MY point. We have had retired raters... who give is incredible insight into what the VA may decide on a certain matter, but since what they said was not what someone wanted to hear they were attacked. An incredible resource who was attacked simply for saying what their years of experience tell them...

So, be polite.... disagree all you want but be POLITE about it. If you just cant stand what someone is saying, hit ignore. The only exception is if someone is giving BAD or wrong advise... bring that to the moderators attention. Also bring to our attention anything that you may feel is a personal or unwarrented attack. It will be acted upon.

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I agree with them all.

The saying goes," you get more with honey than you do with vinager". I do believe that. It really does work.

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Mr Shargo,

I don't know what your problem is.

But if you have a problem with Berta, Adora, Tom, TBird or anyone else on Hadit.com

you have a problem with me.

Do not contact me again in the future for any reason, not through Mail, email, phone or through the Hadit.com board.

Sencerily, Allan Opie

From: Sshargo21@aol.com

To: twkelly4@yahoo.com, allanopie@peoplepc.com

Subject: Re: I suppose you guys can handle this ...

Date: Sep 28, 2007 6:00 PM

In a message dated 9/28/2007 5:16:19 PM Eastern Daylight Time, twkelly4@yahoo.com writes:

Sammy, about hadit.com.

Talk it over with tbird OR set up a new profile and watch what you

say.

Anyhow, you can find anything you might need in the line of research

at hadit without writing anything to anyone.

Thanks Tom, I'm ok, don't really need the folks at hadit and couldn't find t-birds email addy anyhow. If you talk to her though the thing I'm worried about is that this kinda thing happening makes me realize you must have some very disruptive people on the site. I'd just like t-bird to know that it isn't me so she STILL has whomever it might be posting, or looking for trouble from the way her post today sounded, at hadit. This shit must go way back because I recall you telling me once years ago that they were trying to figure who was doing what, my name had come up, and you said you defended me. That was a LONG time ago. Anyhow, don't need hadit and really have no questions at all about VA, everything is fine. I do appreciate you and Allen of course, feel free to blast me anytime with whatever you'd like to say. cc: Allen

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This is the last post I have on the matter.

This was sitting in my email box when I got home & my reply to MR SHARGO at AOL.com

I apologiize for ever stating I'M GLAD YOUR STILL AROUND and can assure the board members this is not the first time i've said something so stupid......Allan

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Hello Sam,

Berta kicked you in the Balls? I wouldn’t take it personal. It’s probably just a reflex from dealing with the VA. Try wearing a catcher’s cup next time.

I missed it. Had to make a 300 mile round trip to the eye clinic at Spokane VAMC. Dr said weird vision problems due to increased nerve damage from MS. He said he was going to put in a referral to fee bases for another MRI. I don't expect it to be approved since it's for MS. My last VA PCP refused to prescribe incontinence guards, MRI’s, pain medication, etc.

It seems like they don’t appreciate complaints about there lousy care like they used to.

Another Writ is about to be submitted to the Court.

I start the tenth year on appeal next month. No action on claim since it was remanded from BVA to Appeals center, June 2006. The regional office level of review refuses to recognize evidence in the record since 2005.

I sent in a waiver of RO level of review. C-file has been collecting dust at the appeals center for 16 months this time around. When and IF the appeals center ever gets someone to actually look at the top page when they open the folder, it will be sent to the BVA to be decided on.

I'm sure that will amount to another two or maybe four years of collecting dust before that ever takes place.

I don’t spend a lot of time on hadit.com these days. I do know its dedication from folks like Berta that continually bring vets like me help. That lady should receive a medal for what she does.

Good to hear you’re still around Sam

Allan

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----- Original Message -----

From: Sshargo21@aol.com

To: twkelly4@yahoo.com ; allanopie@peoplepc.com

Sent: Wednesday, September 26, 2007 2:53 PM

Subject: Tom and Allen ...

Well, looks like Berta already kicked me in the balls. Can't see why, my comment was sure was meant as a complement, as was naming you and Allen as being "hard nosed old timers." I know she's good with her VA stuff, but that little comment rubbed her just a bit too hard!! I realize I'm the newbie and she's just pissed at the other guy, but what ever happened to all the good old battles I used to have on hadit?

Well damnit, hey wait, I still even have Allen's email, haven't talked to him since he was first filing his Writ, lemme see ... ok, the old addy I have on Allen was added, if you know it's an old one Tom please forward a copy of this email. Just wanna know, did I do something wrong? OH SHIT, I mentioned Adora too, and that was also meant as a complement, Jesus, I can even remember back to the nineties!

Well ok then, I'll just ask you guys then ... am I f##kin up ALREADY?? Damn!

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I would like to add that while a person can create a new identity... they (normally) cannot fake their IP. All moderators can see the IP address of each person who posts, no matter the screen-name. Now I'm kinda good with computers and I will say that there are ways to fudge an IP, but the normal person doesn't know them... and wont be able to do them.

So, if you were a problem child, and if you decide to come back, we will still know who you are. If it's been a while, you will probably be given a second chance without even being told we know who you are, but it's a probationary one at best. So if you were banned, and try to come back... be very careful and polite.

We seem to have the same people causing the same problems.... but I think we all are getting a bit tired of it. It's simple.... disagree all you want but be polite. Use something called tact (I have been told it does actually exist).

Further be VERY sensative to the nature of some of our members. Sometimes people post messages that can be called "alarmist" in nature. Some of our members literally have very traumatic spells from these. It is the nature of their illness, and is made worse by these posts. Please, if you are posting something that is not fact, but is simply a discussion state so IN BOLD LETTERS. I have seen members who seem to enjoy posting this type of message, and stirring up a hornets nest. People if it's speculation STATE SO... otherwise all you will do is panic some very fragile veterans, and most likely get some negative reaction from us. Period.

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Allan,

No need to reply but I have known you from other boards and I have ALWAYS found you to be the voice of reason. You consistently ignore all the crap, and post important information that veterans should know. Even on another board where flame wars are the norm, with "socks", and our "lettle" friend, you just plow right on posting you comments and links (though the due to copyright thing used to annoy the heck outa me).

Simply put, you have been a benefit to any community that I have been a part of. Also, just because you know someone, doesnt mean you agree with what they are doing. People change, I know I am ... calmer I guess than in the past. Maybe the meds are working... I dont know. While I view this as a positive change, people also change for the worse, and while you knew someone from long ago, and say hello... that doesn't associate you with their current behavior.

Berta is an incredile resource to Hadit and an extreamly dedicated veterans advocate. I have spolen with her at length about her ability to fight the big battles that I simply do not have. I personally believe that assets like her and Vike need to be protected from harassment... otherwise we will lose them. Plain and simple. While your stance is admirable, you cannot be faulted for knowing someone, nor for their actions. I have been off the board for months - sick, so I missed most of it, but I know a few facts, and one of them is that you are a consistently modest, tactful, and knowlegeable guy who is really trying to help.

In short, while I admire your actions... I dont think for a minute that anyone thought you were supporting his activities. Please do not cease in posting your information... it is of very significant importance.

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Men and women-Sam only insulted me-as far as I know-

it was Cloudcroft who insulted all members who 'go by the book' to give advise here-

He considers us to be naive and in denial.

I brought this up with Pete but found his response to me had missed the point.

I certainly will come aboard to use the search feature and yesterday a member posted an excellent BVA decision-which I will respond to-

but to continue to give claims advise here ?

No -----because I go by the book-

why? ----because VA does----

I am sure Pete and Cloudcroft will be happy to advise you on your specific claims.

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Berta,

PLEASE

Please, for those of us who DO want the regulations, M21-1MR, law, BVA, court, VBM, and The Advocate citations to understand how to best fight our claims, do not abandon hadit. We need and value you.

I heard your radio broadcast where you invited your neighbor into your home to sip a soda while you did his claim - that is the heart of a caring advocate and friend and I respect and admire you for your tireless giving to others in your husband's memory.

Please reconsider your position regarding hadit. We need you. I am personally asking you to remain.

Whatever you decide, know that I understand the VA claims system much better because of your help and posting and I humbly ask you to stay on the site to see my claim and others to conclusion.

Sincerely,

TS Snave

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this is why insulting each other gets us nowhere. we lose good advocates. if you are new or been here since the beginning be mindful of your manners and be civil.

disagreements will happen but bs will not be tolerated. for goodness sakes, you for the most part, are military men and women to ask you to be civil to each other shouldn't be to much.

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a moderator will pm you and let you know your post has been moderated, we are human and do mess up so if you see a post go away and haven't gotten a pm from a moderator it wouldn't hurt to contact anyone on the mod team to track it down.

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Morgan:

If you saw the post on the Board and it is missing than maybe but what usually happens is that some forget to do the final step when posting and its goes out into cyber space.

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I'm just trying to determine whether I violated guidelines. I hope not because I agree totally with all of them, and I deeply appreciate Hadit and want it to always be around to help veterans.

That said, one of my messages disappeared a few days ago, and I wasn't sure why. I reread the guidelines but couldn't see where I might have violated. I had posted my opinion about something (not sure now which topic) and pasted an excerpt of Steve Smithson's testimony before the disability commission to explain my opinion. I believe his testimony highlights the reason for a major part of the claims backlog, but it is covered over and diverted by incessant discussion of how the VA is underfunded, thus understaffed. My opinion was not favorable toward the VA so I thought it might have been deleted because of that.

When I first joined Hadit on the old board, members were free to, and often did, vent their frustration with the system, and those who were hurting and feeling dumped on would get encouragement and concern--and good advice. Now (IMHO) there seems to be less tolerance when someone vents about the ascinine decisions the VA gives. Some of the threads I read now are too close (for me) to the other veterans' help sites that have "in-your-face" attitude if someone says anything against the VA. I know this is not a bash-the-VA forum, but sometimes that's just what brings a veteran to Hadit...they've "had it." If they stick around they should, and often do, get genuine concern and good advice that calms them down and arms them for battle. Their feelings of disappointment or rage should be validated, then redirected for a more productive end. Again, just MHO.

Anyway, if I violated the guidelines, I sincerely apologize. I can't see where I did, but one of the moderators may have thought otherwise. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. B)

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