What/who To Bring To C & P Exam

[ArmyWife]

Well my husband wasn't told about his first C & P Exam...so now while we were dealing with that I thought I would get some tips ,if and when we ever do get one.

1. Should I go with him?

2. Should we bring these "letters"- I have heard of people bringing "letters" from family members and battle buddies. My husband says that all he needs to bring is his CIB and that should be proof enough (he is quite stubborn)

3. What should or shouldn't we say? Since he has been out he has had a drug problem, should we not bring this up?

4. It seems like you have to do all of these tricks to get proper treatment/disability rating..I just want to do the right thing.

He has :

Depression
Anxiety

Never sleeps

Spurts of anger

Lack of interest in sex (its been 6 months )

Drug problem

He has many many dreams about the Army

Trouble expressing emotion

Trouble staying focused

He just can't relate to people, its like he lives in his own world 24/7

He is such a great father, but I feel more distant from him each day.

He shows pretty much all the signs, which at first I think we were both in denial about. But its like it came on full force...I am currently seeking counseling but I can only get counseling after he goes at the local Vet Center.

I guess I am worried he won't be able to express all of these things to the Dr. ...as he does have trouble talking to people. So maybe I shouldn't be there, or maybe I should to contest?

I am giving all of this to God and praying constantly for him. At first I was so angry, because i didn't think it would happen to him, but now I sort of have some peace,I guess.

-Ann

[K9MAL]

I always wear the same outfit, don't shave or smell good when I go to C&Ps and my regular Docs for treatment. It is not the fact that we are over doing it, but the fact is that Docs will put notes on your visit that will say service member is well dressed and smells good. Then when the raters look at the notes, they try to low ball vets by saying that since you are well groomed you must be cured. God bless all of you, and may 2014 be a better year than 2013 for all of us.

After a bit more research I've read that several places, along with not wearing any jewelry as well.

Another big one I've seen mentioned is the "How are you doing today?" and the "Ok…" type response being a non-starter as well.

Amazing how they obviously try to twist and use what you say against you in a literal manner to claim that everything's just dandy.