ptsd PTSD and Wife

[Hoss]

I'm just curious if anyone else has had there "wife" call the VA and have your meds cancelled  based on her opinion that you are drinking too much?

I was finally put on a drug that provided some relief from my almost overwhelming anxiety and my constant irritability; it was actually working. I could carry on a conversation with most anyone and then the next thing I know my wife has called my psychologist who then called the psychiatrist who then discontinued my meds.

Just doesn't seem right...but I guess I'm crazy to begin with.  Funny...they are really going to see crazy now that I'm going to abruptly stop all meds!!!

 

Semper Fi

 

[ArNG11]

1 hour ago, Hoss said:

thanks for your advice...I appreciate it.  My MH psychiatrist is out on leave and won't return until late next week.  I did speak with another psych and she said she can't help.  Do you think family members have the right to contact the VA about our particular situation and then act on it?  It does not set well with me.  By the way my wife is not an angle either!!! Maybe if someone can call in and stop the meds, maybe we really don't need them to begin with.  The more I think about this more pissed and disturbed I get. 

I will survive.

Clear communications is a big thing.  But I empathize with your situation as I have dealt with similar.  Hang in there Hoss.  Things will pan out. 

[flores97]

Hoss, I am sorry for what you are going through. Your spouse had absolutely NO right to do what she did. I would like to think she did it out of concern, even then it was completely uncalled for. I just cannot understand why so many spouses act as though there is nothing wrong with the vet, and yet have no problems spending the money. My ex husband is also a vet, and i still help him as much as possible to this day, we actually divorced before he joined up. 

[Navy04]

Hoss, it sure is alot to take in most days with us Vets, Bad Health, MH Issues and balancing the Family. Really is a hard thing to do even on a Good Day, with a Civilian, let alone what we have gone thru. I recently sold our bigger house, for a nice smaller house with more land, and we are currently in the remodeling. Boy I feel like the MRSs is going to Divorce me every 5 minutes cause she has no patience and wants it all done asap. It takes alot for us to get thru our days, but we have to remember that the Spouses are Reliving what we go thru. Just try to be the best man and father you can be, and remember that she is not your CoWorker, Shipmate or anything other then your Loving Wife and Mother of your Children. God Bless

[Gastone]

She ends up getting the VA to start thinking you may need a fiduciary, that would PMTFO.

If you have PTSD and she's been living with you for more than a few Moons, chances are, she's got PTSD symptoms; herself.

Then again maybe your spending too much time together. I just full boat retired about 4 months ago, I'm driving my wife nuts. She told me to find something away from the house, work, hobby, just not a younger women. WTF, that could be a hobby, right.

Some wive's, just don't have a sense of humor.

Semper Fi

[broncovet]

Every time my wife used that "woman's intuition" stuff on me, it always worked out the best for me when I followed it, too.  That is the only way I know how to get woman's intuition...all I have to do is screw up, and it shows up.  

Do remember the FIRST SIGN of alcohol/drug abuse is its denial.  

I think things could get much worse for you.  Tell your wife you are quitting drinking and mean it.  Then ask her to call the doc back, and put you back on your meds.  

[Jimmer]

When I was married I had to have major surgery for a "detached retina" of the left eye, which is service connected.  She had been very difficult,  saying my problems were not as bad as I stated.  I told her  am not looking for sympathy, just telling it like it is.  After the surgery, I had four different types of drops to put in my left eye.  When I asked her for help with the drops she said "I didn't get married to be a xxxxxxx nursemaid", and threw the bottles across the room (lucky the were plastic) and stormed out of the house.  The next day I changed the locks, filed for divorce, and never looked back.    I did get help from the VA and other doctors for my eye.