Hey Dean/Carlie,
I,too, suffer from fibromyalgia. The single, hardest thing for me has been trying to believe I hurt. I look healthy, therefore I must be healthy.
It took 4 years of going to different doctors till someone suggested that it could be either chronic myofascial pain syndrome or fibromyalgia. They are two similar conditions. Sometimes both conditions can be present at the same time.
To make a long story short, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia by answering different questions about my symptoms and doing the 11 of 18 tender points test (in reality, it's more like 48 points).
My doctor prescribed Lyrica and told me it had recently been approved for fibromyalgia. I've been on it for about a week and it has really loosened up the tightness in my shoulders and neck.
It's not a cure all and some days still suck, especially when the headaches come. But it's a start and it may offer some relief.
At any rate, I feel your pain(<insert pun here). I thought I was going crazy at times but I knew what my body was telling me...it hurt.
Whatever route you take, I hope it leads to happiness and health.
Good luck,
mutt