[Amerisian daughter of Retired US Air Force]

2 hours ago, broncovet said:

This isnt exactly a Veteran's question, but I will give it a shot.  

You posted, 

A lawyer once told me that the courts "can not resolve EVERY injustice".  

I see it that you need to choose from these alternatives, and I wont even think of suggesting which:

1.  Continue to persue this, trying "something different" than obtaining his DNA, if he refuses.  I dont see that you can make him give his DNA.  Can you visit his country, if your goal is to meet him?    If he cant come here, then you can go there, if its that important to you.  

2.  Re Evaluate "why" you want to make this happen, and, just maybe, see what it is in your life that compels you to persue this..after all, you apparently had little or no contact with him in the past, so what difference would it make to you in the future?   Remember the Serenety prayer:   

3.  Make a conscious choice to accept and abide by his decision, and also choose your response(s)  to be the one(s) "most helpful" to your familiy.    You can get Bitter, or you can get Better.   Decide which of the "serenity prayer" applies to this.  I dont know if you can change it or not.  

You make me seems that i am the bad one. I have tried too many times but i failed. He comes here? Too many reasons he said he doesnt want to he is afraid, unsafe and all. I am trying to find a way to see him before anything happens to him because i am just a daughter who longed for a love of a father. Whats the difference would it make for me in the future? It will make a huge impact towards my life. That Everytime I get abused as a child growing up he was all I think about that i wish he was there life would have been different. 

[Amerisian daughter of Retired US Air Force]

. MuThis site has been recommended to me by a US vet. He told me I can post a question here to find answers. 

This is my story.  

Me and my brother was born to a US citizen father and filipino mother. My father worked in the air force based in Clark, Philippines. My brother was born Jan 1985. My father retired Nov 1985 and left Philippines while mom was 7months pregnant with me. My mom had an approved fiance visa in 1987 with us attached as her dependents. We were ready to go but we waited for our father to send a ticket until the visa expired. We lost comtact and We found out later he remarried someone else in the US. Now i am 32 years old, I tried to go the US but my tourist visa got denied because I was told I was a US citizen and not allowed to travel to US using diff passport. I am claiming my citizenship because its always been a dream to meet my father to fill a hole i have longed for a long long time. His name is on our birth certificate and affidavit of paternity was even signed in the US. I have never met my dad only tried to contact him he rarely reply and he seemed not interested. Now, we submitted every papers we have to the embassy to apply for US passport only to find out we will be required to undergo DNA test. We messaged our Dad to ask if he was willing and he told us to go ahead and tell the Embassy that he would provide dna. We were given 90 days by the embassy to provide DNA test but the due date is tomorrow and he still did not call the DNA facility that i set up. Mom, brother and i already submitted our dna test long long ago. I have asked the Embassy extension and its granted for another 2 months. My Dad does say things that he will provide/give etc but he keeps on having 2nd thought. If ever he will do dna test it will be the first promise he fulfilled by far. I came here for an advise out of desperation because i could not understand why That I paid so much money and put a lot of work through it all he only needs a swab and he cant even at least try to do. I need u to enlighten me why. P.S. he is very much aware that he has children over here. We only found him sometime in 2002. He acknowledged us but he seemed to not keep his promise. What should be the best thing to do. My parents were never married. He divorced his wife after mom and he got a new partner now and they are unmarried. We have never asked anything including money. What should i do? My tourist visa failed because i was told to claim for citizenship instead. I am running out of option to fulfill my dream see my dad. Pls enlighten me. I feel I am a mistake. Wev asked him to come see us in the PH but he has so many reasons he obviously doesnt want to.