My mother is entitled DIC. I applied for her in May but have not had a response about the DIC. They did send her a check for $800 for burial expenses from 20 years ago they said they owe her. They just said they did not service connect my dad at his death but they have now determined that he died of a service connected disability in a VA hospital. I did request back pay even though they said it was not authorized because my mother did not request service connection when he died. They said at the time his prostrate cancer was not service connected so why would she apply?. I argued their reasoning.
Anyway, my mother needs assisted living because she falls and she also takes too many pain pills and gets hooked. Spends too much time in hospitals getting off meds and comes home and starts all over. She will not stay with me..I tried that for 3 months. She fights me when taking control of her meds. She is too hard to handle and I am 100% S/C . The stress is too much for me. She has been in a rhab center 2 days now and I am getting ready to see a social worker Monday or Tuesday. I am her only caregiver and I can not handle her anymore along with my S/c disabilities. I have power of Attorney but so does my sister who lives in Milwaukee. My sister just says she does not want to get in the middle. It is easy to say when not living near mom. My sister does own the house my mother lives in. here in Florida. She bought my moms house about 3 months ago. That is all she wanted and went back home. She expects me to care for Mom and keep the house from going to medicare. I can not do this anymore and stay healthy myself.
She is on Tricare and has all the military benefits. Are there some benifits with DIC that will help with assisted living and help with some of the expenses?
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My mother is entitled DIC. I applied for her in May but have not had a response about the DIC. They did send her a check for $800 for burial expenses from 20 years ago they said they owe her. They just said they did not service connect my dad at his death but they have now determined that he died of a service connected disability in a VA hospital. I did request back pay even though they said it was not authorized because my mother did not request service connection when he died. They said at the time his prostrate cancer was not service connected so why would she apply?. I argued their reasoning.
Anyway, my mother needs assisted living because she falls and she also takes too many pain pills and gets hooked. Spends too much time in hospitals getting off meds and comes home and starts all over. She will not stay with me..I tried that for 3 months. She fights me when taking control of her meds. She is too hard to handle and I am 100% S/C . The stress is too much for me. She has been in a rhab center 2 days now and I am getting ready to see a social worker Monday or Tuesday. I am her only caregiver and I can not handle her anymore along with my S/c disabilities. I have power of Attorney but so does my sister who lives in Milwaukee. My sister just says she does not want to get in the middle. It is easy to say when not living near mom. My sister does own the house my mother lives in. here in Florida. She bought my moms house about 3 months ago. That is all she wanted and went back home. She expects me to care for Mom and keep the house from going to medicare. I can not do this anymore and stay healthy myself.
She is on Tricare and has all the military benefits. Are there some benifits with DIC that will help with assisted living and help with some of the expenses?
Any suggestions greatly welcome...
Liz in Hudson Florida
100% S/C USAF
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