OldSoldier

About a year ago my wife tried to get caregiver through va but they said not eligible because only post 9/11 vets. My doctor filled out the aid and assistance form 21 something for me at the time.

I’ve been pretty messed up for a lot of years and physically mentally unable to do anything with my va benefits until a few years ago when I got help, so I was 50% for 20 years. With ptsd since Iraq and chronic fatigue / fibromyalgia since 2010, i just finally got rated 100% p&t effective 2 years ago. My wife my caregiver all these years but I lost all other financial benefits except va so I am trying to find out how to get caregiver for my wife. I am 90s vet. I did read about smc l but my experience with c p exams has left me in a place where I’d rather eat a bullet.

OldSoldier.
Broncovet is dead on.  The process has gotten easier, especially if you have all of your ducks in a row.  You should look at the SMC and see which area first your circumstances the best.  From what has recently happened to me, it is dropping the 5 star evidence and then a C&P is done.  Took about 20 minutes.
As for the fight it does not get easier, and it does suck to have to fight them so much.  It feel like a handout, for whatever reason we went in healthy and did not leave the same way.  There is a reason that soldiers have such a high disability rate.  There is a reason GULF WAR VETS have 5 presumptive conditions which one or two of them can cover hundreds of conditions.  
Also remember you part of the 1% of those in our country that will see war have probably see some awful things, which other Americans will never see.  So fight for what was taken from you!  We are all here to help our sisters and brothers!