Baca,
The "Deer" card (Commissary card) was easy. Find the nearest installation that issues ID cards and call to make an Appt. You will need your awards letter from Va, marriage certificate, Birth certificates for the kids and SS cards. If I forgot something they or someone from Hadit will let you know.
Champ va was surprisingly pretty easy also. Get the 800 number to champ va and call. They can either mail or fax Info to you that you will have to complete and return. They will also want to see your awards letter. Again, marriage certificate, Birth certs for kids and wife and SS cards. I did everything by fax. If I remember it took about a month. If I left anything out someone will let you know.
I called the nearest medical facility and made an Appt. to see a primary care physician (that was easiest for me). Again, by the time they got back to me and made an Appt. It took a couple of months. You can call, walk in to the clinic or do it online. For me it was priorities, Champ va, was first and foremost. I did the other stuff when I had time.
Take a deep breath and relax!
Regards,
Waldo