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Sorry everyone. Yes, this is *NOT* my direct line but if anyone wants to get a hold of me until my world changes xxx xxx xxxx. I've been through some very HORRIBLE things as of lately.

NOTE: phone number deleted by me - please do not post personal identifiying information on the board, if you want you may pm or email members with your personal information. This is for your own protection.

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Thanks everyone. I would like to tell you guys that I now have P&T. However, the VA system has the future exam in the system which I don't know if it is some game. But I have a rating for P&T and I have been given Chapter 35 benefits. I don't know if anyone knows this but there is a Life Insurance Program through the Philadelphia VA. I have DVASI 20 Life if you are P&T or 100 % IU you can get the premiums waived. Thank you for the support.

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Spike; good to see ya back. Kids in school and prepped for the holidays I bet. What are you doing for fun? got a hobby? carpentry pounding nails, playing ping pong or drums?

Regards your P&T good for you. Hope you reap benefits that you need. Are the children 'dependents' also? Benefits all around well deserved am sure. (p.s. do get an updated copy of your CFile when possible, one never knows!) Did you get counseling on the benefits you can recieve? Am sure I seen many good things from P&T regards support, auto, taxes and such somewhere on VA website and/or here.God Bless, jinglin' cg here.

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Spike,

Congrats on the P&T!!

How can they have a future exam date if you are P&T?

Good luck with the wife and enjoy the children during the holidays. They are only little such a short time.

TS Snave

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All,

For some reason this woman keeps trying to make diggs in me. She put dog crap on my car, so therefore I am just "releasing" her from my life. As for my daughter she is upset with the situation, but is doing ok, now. As for my step children, they don't deserve to lose out so I am providing them with christmas gifts and I am leaving them on their doorstep at their fathers house. I have P&T and I am getting a copy of the whole C-File and SMR's for strength in my SSD Claim. Once my SSD claim is finalized, I am moving as far away from my wife as I can. She can either like I said (hate using this term) beg for forgiveness and want to go immediately in the psych ward. If not, so be it, better off letting her go....so she doesn't keep ruining my life. I guess the doctors have been monitoring me for a while and told me that my BP is running extremely high 157-172 on average since this has happened. Can you imagine me having a heart attack, and letting that woman get my life insurance, DIC, etc., for her and her man. Um no. As for a hobby, I am doing whatever exercises I can to help my overall health. I've changed doctors so I have a more "patient friendly" doctor. The last one, I hated.

Changing subjects, I want to know if this is a wrong idea. I can love the wife and be divorced from her can't I? I mean I feel as though I can love her from a distance. I.E. someone tells me shes not eating, I can have someone make things easier for her for food, etc. Or if she needed money to pay for the children clothes. I guess I am stuck on the SEMPER FIDELIS-always faithful. I don't believe she will come around. Everyone seems to say she will and this current relationship won't work, but what she and I have had was special. Why is she not treating it as such. Also here is a wierd catch her father was in the navy (who molested her), then there was her first husband Chris (Navy Reservist)-Airforce Base worker, then me (Marine), and now her boyfriend is former Army. WTH? Oh well I digress. I am going to try to work on my health. I might not be around for a while.

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Re: Your comment, "I hate to say this, but at this point....I've given up and said she does what she does, let her bring her life down. I am cutting my losses with her." 30 Nov 07

It's difficult to say what is best for another person (i.e., you), but in my humble opinion you are on the right track.

Good luck!

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Looking back at that comment. I have to be honest, I swing back and forth on this woman. I say I am going to cut my losses, but then I think what if she had nothing and nothing to eat or what have you. I don't have that mean streak in me to turn anyone away. The fact is that I lived with her for 4 years of that married for 1 yr 1 month.....its hard. But I am doing all that I can. I'm leaving her alone to do her thing....One thing is for sure I haven't been served yet by her so its going on 60 of the 120 day limit. Let's see why she isn't who freaking knows. I am sorry to say this but I think she has more issues than I do with PTSD.

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