My Ex Wife Is Plotting Againt Me.

[SSG Ramos]

Today I got information that my ex wife has gone insane on me. She has been trying to destroy everything on her path. She has managed to create controversy between my family and friends. She even opened a joint bank account after we were divorced. She has been contacting all my relatives trying to dusrupt my relationship's. She is even receiving social security for her child and has me as the supporter of the family and we are no longer married.

When we divorced she kept everything and i kept all the debts. Which I am still paying. But still, she wants more.

All of this was told to me by a friend. A friend that I once lost because of her.

We have been divorced for more than two years now and all of this came by surprise.

But this is not all. To make this even sweeter she is trying to get money from my VA compensation and social security.

Should I be worried about my benefits and her intentions?

We were married from 2009 to 2011 and we no kids.

I need help here.Can she do anything regarding my benefits?

[harleyman]

If you are divorced and you did not have children. She will not get your VA compensation money. She can ask for an apportionment, but it will be denied simply because you are divorced and she is not your dependent. Which means if you are service connected for 30% or greated you are eligible for dependent benefits. If you are divorced make sure you are NO longer gettig paid for her, or you will owe VA and they will recoup that money.

As for SS. She has to have been married to you for 10 years before she would be eligible to entitlement of your Social Security as a dependent benefit.

I don't think you have anything to worry about as far as comp or SS goes.

However, I do think you need to file a letter with the credit companies telling them you are divorced and she is being fraudulent in her business ehtics and you might want to subscribe to one of those companies that watches out for people using or trying to use your personal information, And last but not least file a police report against her. SO you have a record of the complaint to protect your credit and to protect you from any creditors trying to collect from you due to her illegal activity.- jmo

Edited August 4, 2013 by harleyman

[john999]

Maybe to talk to a lawyer who has done military divorces. They know all the ins and outs of this.

[broncovet]

I take a different view. There is always the possibility that your "friend" either did not know the whole scoop, or that the friend was not being honest about your ex.

Most likely, if this was happening, you would have also heard similar things through other friends and family.

I do not recommend filing a police report on your ex based on what a friend told you alone.

Most importantly, if there are children involved (or even if there are not) you need to consider forgiveness. Perpetuating toxic forgiveness is unlikely to give you a good result, long term.

Does she deserve forgiveness? Maybe so or maybe not. Either way, you deserve the healing that forgiveness brings, dont you??

I forgave my ex wife, and it is the best thing I have ever done. I could not experience healing and hate at the same time, so one had to go. I chose forgiveness even tho every fiber of my being said no, as the hatred was deep, long, and wide, affecting both my children and my parents.

I have never met anyone who was sorry they forgave someone. But I have known some who was sorry they did not. Its about your healing, not hers. It does not matter if she reciprocates the forgiveness..your part is done. Dont expect anything from her and you wont be disappointed.

[SSG Ramos]

_Harleyman,

_{"However, I do think you need to file a letter with the credit companies telling them you are divorced and she is being fraudulent in her business ehtics and you might want to subscribe to one of those companies that watches out for people using or trying to use your personal information, And last but not least file a police report against her. SO you have a record of the complaint to protect your credit and to protect you from any creditors trying to collect from you due to her illegal activity.- jmo"}

_{Thanks for the advice I will indeed file a letter to the credit companies and will subscribe to a watch list. I just want her out of my life!! Why cant she just carry on and be happy? Its been more than two years.}

[SSG Ramos]

Maybe to talk to a lawyer who has done military divorces. They know all the ins and outs of this.

I would like to avoid any more legal adventures with her. Hopefully we won’t have to go to that battlefield again. She took everything and when I say everything I mean it. But she wants more. We didn't even had kids. So much ambition for a person that didn't educate herself and doesn't work can be dangerous.

Edited August 5, 2013 by SSG Ramos

[SSG Ramos]

I take a different view. There is always the possibility that your "friend" either did not know the whole scoop, or that the friend was not being honest about your ex.

Most likely, if this was happening, you would have also heard similar things through other friends and family.

I do not recommend filing a police report on your ex based on what a friend told you alone.

Most importantly, if there are children involved (or even if there are not) you need to consider forgiveness. Perpetuating toxic forgiveness is unlikely to give you a good result, long term.

Does she deserve forgiveness? Maybe so or maybe not. Either way, you deserve the healing that forgiveness brings, dont you??

I forgave my ex wife, and it is the best thing I have ever done. I could not experience healing and hate at the same time, so one had to go. I chose forgiveness even tho every fiber of my being said no, as the hatred was deep, long, and wide, affecting both my children and my parents.

I have never met anyone who was sorry they forgave someone. But I have known some who was sorry they did not. Its about your healing, not hers. It does not matter if she reciprocates the forgiveness..your part is done. Dont expect anything from her and you wont be disappointed.

We didn’t had any kids and don’t misunderstand me. I feel nor love or hate toward her. I do feel sorry for her but the fact that she is trying to do harm against me again is unacceptable. I took control of my life again. I have a great women by my side, I bought my home, I’m retired and I even became a father now.

Trust me when I tell you that I honestly wish the best for her because that would even give me more peace knowing that she wont be doing the things she is doing now. But anyways. I called BBVA Compass and indeed she open a joint account and in that account is where she is receiving the social security for her son.

She has been asking around where I live and my address. This is just getting out of control. If she does appear at my house it won’t have a happy ending.

I have a new born baby..... you get the point.