Retired Vs Disabled

[bigvic]

Well guy's..

My Father did 26 years Army and my Brother did 24 years Air Force and they are both mad at me. They both say that I make more than they did for having done less. I try to calmly explain to them both that I'd rather have my legs back, and be able to go out and play with my grad kids. They both know full well that it took over twenty years to even get the VA give me medical attention let along award me 100% P/T.

What gets me is they were the same ones screaming at me to get a job when I could not work because I was in severe pain.

Now you guys see why I really dont have a lot of faith in people that I dont know, if the people that I've known all my life act this way what can I really expect... HUH... You would think that they would say OK we were wrong and we now really know that something was wrong with you for the last twenty years. HA...

I have actual medical evidence backed up by the VA this time and they are still of the opinion that I just dont deserve it... I cant win...

Bigvic 100% P/T Severe Spinal Canal Stenosis....

They dont even realize that they were actually helping the VA further my deseased spinal column and medical condition which has led to my paralysis. B)

Edited April 26, 2006 by bigvic

[carlie]

Sometimes family will treat us worse than strangers.

If your dad or brother had service related medical problems --

they'd be doing themselves an injustice by NOT filing a claim.

OMO,

carlie

[Pete53]

BigVic:

I doubt that they are mad at you but they are mad at the government. One piece of advice is not to tell people how much VA pays you. Don't forget that disability is supposed to replace an income that you should have been able to earn.

[vaf]

Sometimes it's hard to remember that no one is obligated to subject themselves to abuse just because the abuser is family. We let our guard down because we expect them to support us, not damage us. You don't owe them access to you for the sheer opportunity of hurting your feelings and possibly making your physical condition worse. You've suffered losses and you've paid some high prices for your service, and you owe no one an explanation, nor do you need to provide yourself as a target of their anger over money.

With that many years in service, it's clear they are not intellectually challenged, so from the sound of it, this is a personal choice they've both made to be angry at you out of jealousy over your disability awards. The advice you received to keep this information to yourself in the future is valuable, since we now see what can happen if you don't.

[bigvic]

You are absolutly right, I was trying to go overboard trying to please them and was just saying thanks for the little support I did get in the past. It's not like they really wanted to help me you know. You would think they'd be happy that I was out of their hair for support. I dont get it but I no longer care. Since I've been home they never visit or call me anyway. I spend most of my time by myself and in my condition theres not much I can do about that or how they feel. Oh well...

[Guest fla_viking]

Dear Bigvic

IF they think you got such a good deal. Tell them to go through what you went through and you will give them your disablity pay. I dont think they will want to hurt themselfs and wait 20 years to collect.

I had not been home for 11 years. I went home with lettering on my truck back gate that told how crooked the VA is and had hadit.com website on it. My sisters first words to me in 11 years was the message on my truck made me look like I was a crazy mother f---er. She went on and on about it. There are allot of people in our socity who contribute and want abuse to be secret. My mom said she was jelous because I made more money then her and she had a masters degree in educaton which put her in debt.

I think part of it is. As we grew up. I was a goofy brother. I dont think she knows or could see the sacrafice and harm I went through in service to my country in the Army and through the VA system. When you grow up everday with someone. You can form ideas that there is no way my littel brother could do that or go through that.

In the end run. I feel proud of what I accomplished, It feels real good to come here on hadit and help veterans to laugh and get through the claims nightmare, So far the government has not slaped the goofyness out of me. I feel im being true to myself.

Terry Higgins

[Bound4heaven]

Dear Bigvic

IF they think you got such a good deal. Tell them to go through what you went through and you will give them your disablity pay. I dont think they will want to hurt themselfs and wait 20 years to collect.

I had not been home for 11 years. I went home with lettering on my truck back gate that told how crooked the VA is and had hadit.com website on it. My sisters first words to me in 11 years was the message on my truck made me look like I was a crazy mother f---er. She went on and on about it. There are allot of people in our socity who contribute and want abuse to be secret. My mom said she was jelous because I made more money then her and she had a masters degree in educaton which put her in debt.

I think part of it is. As we grew up. I was a goofy brother. I dont think she knows or could see the sacrafice and harm I went through in service to my country in the Army and through the VA system. When you grow up everday with someone. You can form ideas that there is no way my littel brother could do that or go through that.

In the end run. I feel proud of what I accomplished, It feels real good to come here on hadit and help veterans to laugh and get through the claims nightmare, So far the government has not slaped the goofyness out of me. I feel im being true to myself.

Terry Higgins

Terry,

Great post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bound4Heaven