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carlie

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Thanks for all the comments and kindness.

I just hope this vet hasn't soured me against helping others.

Carlie passed away in November 2015 she is missed.

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Carlie

Have you heard of the poor person living in a shack who wins 100,000,000, in the lotto? 5 Years later all the money is gone. Their kids are in jail. They are in rehab and the shack has been repossed. Some people you just can't reach.

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Carla - anything they do is on them. You had no responsibility to help but you did. You should be proud of yourself!!! The desire to get a new vehicle, for someone who's never owned one, is large. It says look at me, I'm a success, to the unknowing. To those of us who know, it's a stupid waste of money. A former group member of mine won an accident settlement and paid cash to a dealer, for a jeep, about 12 yrs ago. He stated "you should have seen the salesman when I pulled the $20k outta my pocket!" The salesman coulda cared less, except that he knew the sale would go thru and he'd get his commission. Six months later the $80k settlement was gone and the guy was broke again. We can't control others but can be pleased w/ourselves for what we do!!! I know, sometimes it makes ya want to give up but that'll pass. I sometimes buy a stranger's meal but always request the staff say nothing to them until I've left. I'm not looking for credit for my action, just the pleasure in knowing someone had something good done for them that one particular day. jmo

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pr,

I know you've been down this path a few times and thank you for your reply.

I just hate reading the tea leaves.

She got 64K and I'm pretty confident that within a few months

she will be sitting by the phone at midnight - the end of every month -

just waiting to call the bank, to be sure her deposit was made.

Financially over-extended and living on the edge, month to month.

I really hope - for her sake - that I am completely wrong.

On this - I would really like to be wrong : - (

Carlie passed away in November 2015 she is missed.

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I think no matter what you try you have to leave it up to others to carry their own load you did the right thing and your heart was in the right place. I know I had been in the clouds myself here lately not worring about nothing I just got my 100% and I was thankful for that and that alone knowing that m family had some breathing room. You hang in there and let the cards fall where they may. I gave up years ago trying to help people go the right way If people want to do something or go a direction nothing will make them happy until they get there. I say God Bless and I hope you know which way you want to go.

I can say from me to everyone on hadit. Thanks for being there for me...

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Carlie....Don't give up on others - You, Berta and many others on this site are a true blessing to many of us and have guided us in the right direction. It's just like people who win millions in the lotto and are broke within 2 years. I think you contributed more than one can ask for. If and when I am blessed with 100% - I'm going to be very wise with mine. :)

@PR - I like what you do - by paying for someone's meal. I've done that for some soldiers before that were eating at the same diner I was in. :) Pay it forward - I love it.

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