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Spouse's Statement

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SouthernBelle

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Okay, I'm new here, and I have perused this site for hours trying to find an example of a "Spouse's Statement" I am preparing to write a statement to add to my husband's request for increase in disability rating (PTSD w/ Anxiety, currently clinically depressed) and for the life of me, I cannot decide how I should approach this. I'm a freelance journalist, and I am so accustomed to writing with from an unbiased stance that I cannot make my brain do this without some kind of prompt. Any help would be greatly appreciated. I have considered simply listing his symptoms and how they affect him, me and our child, but I'm just not sure. Thanks!

SouthernBelle

We should be angry, but kind; demanding, but polite; and firm but soft-spoken.

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I've been to vawatchdog.org. It is an exellent resource. I really appreciate your input. My statement is about behavior and symptoms, so I think I've done what I should. I'm no doctor, so I can't provide a diagnosis.

To everyone else: I've been away for a while because a very dear friend of mine and my husband's was murdered last week, and I've been trying to cope with that. We are both pretty upset about it, neither of us are dealing with it very well. I have to go to the service by myself because my husband can't go there yet.

We should be angry, but kind; demanding, but polite; and firm but soft-spoken.

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I should also say that my best friend is THRILLED that I've found this site. She feels bad because she has no input and isn't used to being helpless. She also you for my sanity. Her name is Kristi, please feel free to send kudos, I'll be sure she gets them! She's been here through it all.

We should be angry, but kind; demanding, but polite; and firm but soft-spoken.

SouthernBelle

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Sorry about your friend's untimely passing. We live in an evil world. Nothing more I can say but I am praying that you receive God's grace to deal with this senseless act.

I am facing several funerals in near future and a couple of days ago I bought new suit and shirt and a nice tie. At least I still can wear my old shoes.

I don't care much for funerals but I have found that when I go I feel better afterwards. I hope that the same happens for you.

Veterans deserve real choice for their health care.

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Thank you. It has been horrible. There has been a lot of speculation and mean words spoken. I'm trying to remember that my friend may have been murdered, but I don't think it was on purpose. Long story short, he was sucker punched leaving a bar for defending a lady. The man hit my friend, he hit the concrete, had a seizure, had a brain injury, lived on life support for a five days, then was taken off life support. At least I got to say goodbye at the service. At that service I realized that I would never see his goofy grin or his unusually large ears again. That was....devastating.

We should be angry, but kind; demanding, but polite; and firm but soft-spoken.

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