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Ricky

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Although I have passed along to a few via IM why I have not been around much I would like to let all know so you don't think hey he another one of those got mine now see you later guys!!

A few months back my mom was diagnosed with Small Cell Lung Cancer. Although it is uncurable they offered her chemo along with a trial drug. Since I am the only one she could stand to birth (hahahahha) my wife and I have had our hands full with a very stringent regime of chemo.

Well today we were informed that her cancer has stopped responding to all three chemo drugs and the trial drug. It is now very wide spread so all drug treatment was stopped.

The doc gave us anywhere from a few days to a few weeks to enjoy her here on earth. He did offer that there was one more drug that she could try but the side effects would be so devastating that the extra 3-4 weeks it may give her would not be worth it. We have one week to make our decision - which at this point I will recommend to her that we forego any further treatment. Her poor body has been tormented so much by the previous drugs that I do not believe she can stand it and if she can have somewhat of a normal life for the next 2-3 weeks then I think it would be selfish of me to attempt to keep her here with me just a few short weeks all the while completely putting her mind and body through pure hell.

I will check in from time to time just to try and stay sane - for you guys and gals have been a life saver for me ever since I became a member of this wonderful community in 2005. God Bless each and everyone of you.

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I am praying for you and your family. Enjoy the time that you have left with your mother.

"Don't give up. Don't ever give up." Jimmy V

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Ricky:

Same thing happened to my Mom. Its really hard but I promise to keep you and your family in my prayers and thoughts. Let us know if we can help in any way.

Its hard to let go but there comes a time when we must.

Pete

Veterans deserve real choice for their health care.

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Ricky, You're a good man. God Bless you, your wife and your Mom. ~Wings

USAF 1980-1986, 70% SC PTSD, 100% TDIU (P&T)

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This is very sad news and I will pray for all of you.

GRADUATE ! Nov 2nd 2007 American Military University !

When thousands of Americans faced annihilation in the 1800s Chief

Osceola's response to his people, the Seminoles, was

simply "They(the US Army)have guns, but so do we."

Sameo to us -They (VA) have 38 CFR ,38 USC, and M21-1- but so do we.

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It is quality and not quantity when you have terminal condition I think. Three good weeks is worth six months of misery and pain.

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Hang in there Ricky.

Your in outr prayers also.

J

A Veteran is a person who served this country. Treat them with respect.

A Disabled Veteran is a person who served this country and bears the scars of that service regardless of when or where they served.

Treat them with the upmost respect. I do. Rejection is not a sign of failure. Failure is not an option, Medical opinions and evidence wins claims. Trust in others is a virtue but you take the T out of Trust and you are left with Rust so be wise about who you are dealing with.

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