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Opinions please. Worsening symptoms. Ptsd/ tbi

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Phild523

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So I have been a member on here discussing my claims. I have had a long road with this claim starting last August 2018. So the claim is not finished but it finally went to preparation for decision. My ptsd/tbi symptoms have gotten even worse. My wife is an alcoholic who pushes me to my limits. She punched me in the face and I totally lost my control. I went into a rage and dont remember what happend. She obviously called the police and I was arrested for domestic violence. I was given an order of protection from my wife and year old daughter who is my world. I had to move to my mother's house temporarily for at least a month. I have been feeling suicidal and just plain angry. Should I talk to my vso with all the terrible shit written on police report about me and my ptsd ? What do you guys think?

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Phil I hope you can see where Geeky is coming from and listen. Get mad at him if you wish, but I believe wholeheartedly this is the most important advise you will get on this site. A hell of a lot more important than disability stuff. If you don't like the advise, please do this. Print out a copy and put it on the wall so you will see it every morning. Read it every day, even if you don't think you have a problem. I tell you this because you told us when you started out that your little girl is your life. You are probably heading for divorce. Expect it. Maybe not, but don't bet the ranch.If you want a chance with getting your daughter, you are going to have to show the judge you would be the better parent. Stop the booze. 

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I am also sad to read about Geekysquids upringing. It is not what I wish to be around anymore. I do not drink because after suicides of two members of my platoon it fell hard on me like it does to many. No excuses. I drank. It was everyday like a six pack. I changed. 

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6 minutes ago, Phild523 said:

I am also sad to read about Geekysquids upringing. It is not what I wish to be around anymore. I do not drink because after suicides of two members of my platoon it fell hard on me like it does to many. No excuses. I drank. It was everyday like a six pack. I changed. 

Thank you for that and your own experience is heart wrenching.

I truly believe that regrets over the past are the wrong answer. The bad, just as the good, make us what we are today. If that is better than the past "us" then we are doing it right. If we are worse than the past "us" then we are doing it wrong.

It is all in our own hands.

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