ptsd Might Have To Go Fee Based Care

[purple]

This might be an impossible task; but I think I need to try it anyway...fee basis care for my PTSD. I've tried the new tdoc (therapist) for several sessions now and I can honestly say that the only thing she has accomplished is making me feel much worse. Last appt she actually told me that she isn't here to be my friend, she's here to be my therapist!!!!! She said this referring to comments I made that I didn't understand why I couldn't express to her the problems that come up in my day-to-day life that cause me huge stress.

Nope, she doesn't want to talk about that...she doesn't feel that is important at all. Here's a few of the major things just in the past 6 months:

-Car accident causing back injury, still have on/off back pain

-Major storm caused damage to my house (need new roof, new back fence, front awning and some siding missing)

--still waiting on some estimates and work to be scheduled

-Leak in bathroom...shower wall now tore down, needs re-tiled

-2nd car accident causing neck and head injury, still in treatment for neck injury, awaiting insurance settlement

--car not the same after this accident 3K worth of damage

-big time family issues and problems with ex-spousal unit

-youngest son just this weekend was punched in face by a friend; broken front tooth; now needs major dental work

-trying to get house ready to host family thanksgiving (my mom is driving me nuts over this)

But she refuses to talk about any of this......this is just some of the crap. She also hasn't scheduled me to see a doc for meds; knowing that I've been off meds (psych meds) since the med that the RN gave me made me ill (over a month ago).

And the new "women's group" is a mess.

She knows I'm actively suicidal in that I constantly think about it...have a plan, etc...but the RN and her both agree this is my "normal". I'm sorry, since when is that "normal"?????? They just don't get it!!!! I scream for help and they look the other way.

Do you guys think the VA will approve fee based care?.........or look the other way?

And no, I won't call the hotline #, they have caller ID and the first thing they do is look up your medical records and to me that is a HUGE violation of privacy rights....sorry, didn't mean to vent.

[purple]

wings-

i've let it all out a couple of times--scared a couple of newbie tdocs--that is always a riot and yes, the look on their face is priceless. i mean i only tell them a small % of what is going on in my head and they look horrified!...then they shuffle off like a scared rat to find their supervisor and ask what to do.

no, i'm not doing that again....not being their practice dummy.

as far as a lawsuit; i'm not even thinking about that yet. i haven't even had a chance to talk to this punk kid's parents. when i do speak to them, and if they refuse to accept responsibility for their punk kid.....then that might be a different story.

just talked to my sister....lets add some more stress shall we? apparently my mom is worried because i haven't decided on the "menu" for Thanksgiving dinner yet. What??? My sister said she is starting to freak out because I have assigned who brings what yet. OMG. This is the first time I've hosted family Thanksgiving....and it might be the last. Jeez.

[carlie]

purple,

Call law enforcement on the punk that screwed up your son's teeth.

That's a criminal act.

Thanksgiving Dinner - local restaurants or grocer usually do well for Thanksgiving orders.

Tell family to bring the paper goods, drinks, utensils and desserts.

Tell your sister to make the traditional green bean caserole for 50, and you will allow

everyone to pitch in and clean up afterwords, that should cover it all.

Tell tdoc - get my damned meds before I choke myself ! lol but probably true.

jmho,

carlie

[Wings]

wings-

i've let it all out a couple of times--scared a couple of newbie tdocs--that is always a riot and yes, the look on their face is priceless. i mean i only tell them a small % of what is going on in my head and they look horrified!...then they shuffle off like a scared rat to find their supervisor and ask what to do.

no, i'm not doing that again....not being their practice dummy.

as far as a lawsuit; i'm not even thinking about that yet. i haven't even had a chance to talk to this punk kid's parents. when i do speak to them, and if they refuse to accept responsibility for their punk kid.....then that might be a different story.

just talked to my sister....lets add some more stress shall we? apparently my mom is worried because i haven't decided on the "menu" for Thanksgiving dinner yet. What??? My sister said she is starting to freak out because I have assigned who brings what yet. OMG. This is the first time I've hosted family Thanksgiving....and it might be the last. Jeez.

Purple, Like Carlie said, Please file a Police Report. Let the Cops speak to the parents on your behalf, I'm sure they'd be more rational than you would be able to (no offense)! There may be a statute of limitations on filing for "damages". It would hurt LESS if you called the cops and filed that report. This time of year of so hard for us veterans. No kidding, the stress for normies is bad but for some of us, it's downright painful. My son and his girlfriend have bought and been running a Cafe in town for a year --this Thanksgiving, one of my kids if going to treat me to dinner. I think I'll cry (again) . . . I would NOT cook this year, the stores sell the whole shebang with gravy cheaper than I could make it.

Gee Wiz, get some new meds and take the edge off. I've been waiting to hear from FeeBase Care, but will call the VA Clinic in the morning and threaten them with camping gear and tent in the hallway to wait on some medication . . . You always have us for the Holidays. ~Wings

[purple]

had tdoc appt today. i so didn't want to go; but for some reason i did. a glutton for punishment i guess. when i got there she was over in the pdoc's office...so i was called in there...he said he was "busy" (he didn't look busy at all) and that it would be better if i made an appt to see him. ok.

i'm thinking she has talked to him and told him how urgently i need to see him.......nope. he said his next available appt was december 3rd! lovely. oh, and she also "forgot" that i'm not on any psych meds now. (what a great tdoc).

our appt was a waste of time. it was just to fill a required VA square. she said we had to complete a suicide assessment form. lovely. that took pretty much the entire time. never had to do those with RN person. i just really get tired of the same questions over and over.

as far as the mess with my son, he got his retainer today that he will be wearing until february when the implant process begins. that retainer (with the tooth on it) cost close to $500!! i'm going to write a letter to the other kids parents--a very polite letter--and send it signature required to them.

Thanksgiving...i bought a HUGE turkey from the commissary the other day. I'm going to make all the regular stuff, mashed potatoes, stuffing, homemade noodles, veggies, rolls, salads, desserts. But I'm going to delegate out some of that also.

Sorry for all the rambling....but knowing me; there will be more :o ...thanks to all my fellow vets for your support; it really means alot!

[gp747]

had tdoc appt today. i so didn't want to go; but for some reason i did. a glutton for punishment i guess. when i got there she was over in the pdoc's office...so i was called in there...he said he was "busy" (he didn't look busy at all) and that it would be better if i made an appt to see him. ok.

i'm thinking she has talked to him and told him how urgently i need to see him.......nope. he said his next available appt was december 3rd! lovely. oh, and she also "forgot" that i'm not on any psych meds now. (what a great tdoc).

our appt was a waste of time. it was just to fill a required VA square. she said we had to complete a suicide assessment form. lovely. that took pretty much the entire time. never had to do those with RN person. i just really get tired of the same questions over and over.

as far as the mess with my son, he got his retainer today that he will be wearing until february when the implant process begins. that retainer (with the tooth on it) cost close to $500!! i'm going to write a letter to the other kids parents--a very polite letter--and send it signature required to them.

Thanksgiving...i bought a HUGE turkey from the commissary the other day. I'm going to make all the regular stuff, mashed potatoes, stuffing, homemade noodles, veggies, rolls, salads, desserts. But I'm going to delegate out some of that also.

Sorry for all the rambling....but knowing me; there will be more :P ...thanks to all my fellow vets for your support; it really means alot!

glad to hear you are getting better purple :o

[LarryJ]

Turkey......ah yes, turkey.

The Wife (BTW, this has absolutely NOTHING to do with the current posting, but, I'm an unemployed, frustrated Jewish comedian, so ya get what ya get)....oh yeah, the Wife. The Wife buys me a new, really neat, meat smoker, you know, all electric, with racks, water pan, digital controls, YUP a digitally controlled meat smoker. WOW, you say!

Okay, so I buy my first turkey last week, my first "subject", you might say. I wanted to make sure that I could do a good job on an experimental turkey, BEFORE attempting the "Official Thinksgiving Turkey".

Does anyone remember the turkey on Chevy Chase's "Christmas Vacation"?