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ptsd Please Help Me Get My Dh Started With His Claim
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hedgey
My poor DH. He's in a tail-spin, and I want to grab hold of him but it's scary.
I've said before, he wants to file a claim for PTSD. He needs to file a claim. He should file a claim. His VA therapist is urging him to do it, because he thinks it might help a bit. He has the PTSD dx from his VA psychiatrist, and his therapist has another VA psychiatrist on deck to start seeing him soon (old psychiatrist p'o'd DH, DH kinda scared him, guess it was good in the end). VA therapist has said that new psychiatrist will certainly connect the PTSD to his in-service trauma.
Got SMR's, got C-file. From my skimming through the SMRs, an un-trained sloth could connect the dots.
So what's the problem? DH is stuck. The SMR's are there, the forms are there, all he needs to do is look through the SMR's with me to make sure we get the dates & places right, and then I will help him write his claim. But he's stuck. Everytime we're supposed to do it, something comes up. He has to cut the grass. Take a shower. Fix the weed-whacker. Watch TV.
I understand. Believe me, I understand that he's stuck and that he's afraid to look back and read those records. I sure as shoe-polish was terrified, and my hand wouldn't move to open the packet. But I got torqued, angry, piqued. He helped me so much, sat next to me and held me, etc.
But when he gets fidgety, then angry, get out of the way or get stomped. I know he can't help this, but what can I do? I won't lie, the idea of going through his records, c-file, writing up a claim, is overwhelming to me, too. I feel suffocated when I think about it. I take a lorazepam and then it doesn't seem so urgent anymore.
He's not been prescribed a good calmer yet. Old psychiatrist prescribed one that made him feel dopey and out of control. Psych refused to change med, so DH won't see old psych and won't take med. See my other post about the Dr.
But any suggestions on how to help DH get going with this? Thanks to all...
Let us be kind, one to another, for we are each of us together in our pain.
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